Good in Bed Research recently conducted a survey to examine relationship boredom, and according to 3,341 readers in committed relationships, half reported either being bored or on the brink of boredom in their relationships. Further, 24 percent of people reported having engaged in infidelity due to boredom. "Boredom is basically...
I want to teach you all a vocabulary word - or a vocabulary phrase, actually: phenotypic plasticity The reason I want you to know this is that I've been attempting to read "Sex at Dawn," a book that argues (as far as I can tell) that we are not designed...
It seems that between celebrity affairs, sex rehab shows on television, and the explosion of internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a household term familiar to most. In fact, the media has commandeered this term to create interest, and possibly rationalizations, for public figures' involvement in affairs and indiscretions, as...
On the CBS sitcom "Mike & Molly," the title characters meet at an Overeaters Anonymous support group and embark on a romantic relationship. It's an uncommon look at intimacy between plus-sized partners, played mainly for laughs. But with obesity rates skyrocketing in this country, sex when one or both partners...
"If I hadn't gotten divorced, I never would have had the top five sexual experiences of my life," gushed Tom, a friend of a friend at a recent holiday party. What a turnaround! In 2010, at the same party, Tom* had been in the midst of splitting up with his...
When you hear the words 'heart' and 'sex life' in the same sentence, odds are the speaker is probably talking about love. But your heart - or, more accurately, your cardiovascular system - actually has a lot to do with your ability to perform in the bedroom. This concept was...
When you're dealing with a penis, squeeze up, relax down. Squeeze up. Relax down. Whether using a hand or a vagina or a mouth or a mechanical device... Squeeze up. Relax down. (Not so much with anal sex, you mostly just want to let the anal sphincter relax during penetration.)...
Multiple questions lately on what it means to have various kinds of fantasies. "I'm totally a big gay, but I really get off on fantasies about people of the other sex." Or "I'm like WAY straight, but I really get off on fantasies about people of the same sex." Or...
It was pointed out to me that in my jealousy post of more than a year ago, I said I'd write a post for the non-jealous partner. I never did. So here: If you're partner to someone who is jealous, start by reading the jealousy post above. And then memorize...
I've been looking again at the data we collected from 1418 men and 1923 women on how relationship boredom interferes with relationships both sexually and non-sexually. We found a lot of interesting information, and you can check out the full report here. The purpose of collecting that data was to...
Orgasm is such an elusive "thing" in our culture, and there is frequently a lot of pressure placed around sex and achieving orgasm. So much so, that couples seeking therapy for sexual problems often have to be reminded of removing the emphasis on orgasm in order to remove some of...
Hard to believe, but today is the last day of 2011. I often hear people say how over-rated they think New Year's Eve is, and I often agree. However, when it comes to your sex life, New Year's Eve is far from over-rated. In one of our recent Good in...
Struggling with a cancer diagnosis? Cancer -- and its treatment -- can be overwhelming, on both a physical and an emotional level. And while this may not be on your mind at first, it can even affect your sex life. How can you make your intimate life a priority again...
Perhaps you're reading this because your partner has been diagnosed with cancer. For that, we salute you. It's admirable that you're taking the time to educate yourself about your partner's diagnosis, and about the physical and emotional fallout they will inevitably experience. But what's even more important is asking yourself:...
One of the most common excuses people use when turning down sex from their partner? "Sorry, honey. I'm feeling too tired to exert myself with some strenuous bumping and grinding." We know. So trite. But it's tough to prioritize sex if you've had a long day at work, a tough...