More Expert Blogs

Sex on the Brain

with Ian Kerner

Long Distance Relationships

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

The end of summer doesn't just mean it's time to buckle down at work or head back to school. For many college students, autumn also signals a disruption in summertime loving, in other words, a return to the dreaded long-distance relationship.But are these types of relationships really so hard? Or,...

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Dads with low Desire

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Women may be the ones to physically go through pregnancy and childbirth, but they're not alone in the experience. From phantom pains to "sympathy" weight gain, partners of pregnant women can develop some of the physical symptoms of pregnancy. Now, a recent study suggests that these partners may undergo the same shifts...

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Sex After a Heart Attack

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Having a heart attack is often a wake-up call for people to change their lives, whether that means quitting smoking, eating healthier or simply focusing on doing the things they enjoy.But surviving a heart attack can trigger anxiety, too: What if it happens again? And while many men and women...

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Sex Nerd

with Emily Nagoski

Is porn addiction for real?

Posted by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

You can't be "addicted" to porn.  You can  use it compulsively, as a maladaptive way of trying to cope with difficult feelings, just as you can use almost anything.Like Netflix.Or half-gallon containers of ice cream.Or adopting cats.The difference between addiction and compulsion is a technical one, and I guess sometimes people...

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how does a fetish develop?

Posted by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

No one is born with a fetish. In fact, almost nothing is "innately" sexually relevant - at birth, the only thing that sexually arouses us is the sensations of our genitals.So what happens is that from birth, our brains begin linking that sensation with external stimuli - the sensation of our genitals...

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Worthwhile sex books

Posted by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Not long ago, I did a little survey to find out what folks' favorite non-fiction sex books are. Here are the results. 5 people said The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides. I have assigned this book in my class and I am wholly in agreement that this...

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Psychology of Sex

Advice from Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

Are We Drawn To Music That Includes Reproductive Messages?

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

"My anaconda don't want none unless you got buns, hon." - From 'Baby Got Back' by Sir Mix-A-Lot "She's got me spendin'. Spendin' all your money on me, up on me, on me." - From 'My Humps' by the Black Eyed Peas Evolutionary psychologists believe that men and women have...

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How Does Parenthood Affect the Sex Lives and Relationships of Gay Men

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

Researchers have known for years that parenthood has some predictable effects on heterosexual couples. Specifically, relationship satisfaction typically decreases1 and sexual activity usually drops off markedly once kids enter the picture.2 Given the significant increase in gay couples raising children through surrogacy and adoption in recent years, researchers have begun...

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Do Aphrodisiacs Really Work?

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

People around the world have long believed that certain foods are aphrodisiacs. Oysters, bananas, figs, cucumbers...the list goes on and on. But can eating any of these foods really increase sexual desire and behavior? Perhaps. But before you go booking next Friday's date at that expensive and exclusive raw bar,...

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Queer Eye for Sex

an LGBTQ Perspective with Margie Nichols

The DSM and NIMH: Why Insel Got It Right, and What It Means for Sexology

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

In a move that is causing consternation among psychiatrists, Thomas Insel, Director of the National Institutes of Mental Health, announced that NIMH will be 're-orienting its research away from DSM categories.' Insel called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the Bible of psychiatry, nothing more than a dictionary at best. He...

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What We Can All Learn from Gay Couples

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

By now most people have heard about John Gottman's research comparing gay and straight couples, publicized a few years back. Gottman, a respected psychologist and researcher, did a study of gay relationships that revealed that for the most part same and mixed sex couples had similar similar levels of relationship...

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Sex Tips from the Leather World, Part Two

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

First, let me say a little more about decoupling sex and love. Because, imho, the source of many of our sexual difficulties is our sloppy sentimentality about sex and love. The reason we personalize our partner's sexual behavior so much is that we are viewing sexuality through lenses distorted by...

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Sex Trends

with Kristen Mark

An Interesting (And Sexy) Trend From Our Latest Survey

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

One of our missions at Good in Bed is to try and change the statistic that CNN reported, indicating over 40 million Americans are stuck in a sex rut and more than half are dissatisfied with their sex lives. This grim statistic is motivation to ensure couples and individuals alike...

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What Are Your Attitudes About Valentine's Day?

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

It's Valentine's Day - the day of pink and red explosions of chocolates, roses, and teddy bears everywhere you look. To some, this is an exciting time; a holiday looked forward to with anticipation. To others, this is a time of annoyance and bitterness toward a holiday perceived as...

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Learning From Lack of Orgasm

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

I've always kept track of all of the questions that readers, students, and acquaintances ask me related to sexuality and relationships. This morning, I was reading through some of the questions, and noticed a theme of orgasm throughout. Most of the orgasm-related questions came from folks with female partners wanting...

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Sex After Cancer

Advice from Patty Brisben and Keri Peterson, MD

How Couples Can Deal with Sex After Cancer

Posted by Patty Brisben

Struggling with a cancer diagnosis? Cancer -- and its treatment -- can be overwhelming, on both a physical and an emotional level. And while this may not be on your mind at first, it can even affect your sex life. How can you make your intimate life a priority again...

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How to Help Your Partner Deal with a Cancer Diagnosis

Posted by Keri Peterson, MD

Perhaps you're reading this because your partner has been diagnosed with cancer. For that, we salute you. It's admirable that you're taking the time to educate yourself about your partner's diagnosis, and about the physical and emotional fallout they will inevitably experience. But what's even more important is asking yourself:...

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How To Feel Sexy When You're Just Plain Fatigued

Posted by Keri Peterson, MD

One of the most common excuses people use when turning down sex from their partner? "Sorry, honey. I'm feeling too tired to exert myself with some strenuous bumping and grinding." We know. So trite. But it's tough to prioritize sex if you've had a long day at work, a tough...

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