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No age-limit on Great Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner

Contrary to the recent musings of Miley Cyrus that sex goes kaput once you hit 40, there's research to support that older people are right to have "great sexpectations."But research has shown that as people age, they don't necessarily forget how to have a good time in the bedroom."Sex can be better...

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After an Affair

Posted by Ian Kerner

We've all heard the adage: "Once a cheater, always a cheater." If your partner has been unfaithful, you're likely getting all sorts of advice from well-meaning friends and family.Much of that advice may involve ending your relationship. Yet it's possible -- and perhaps even beneficial -- to stay in a...

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Can you change your sexual response?

Posted by Emily Nagoski

A useful way to think about the idea of sexual response is to break it into two concepts: arousal and arousability.Arousability refers to your trait levels of SIS and SES (dual control model). Our best understanding at this point is that sexual arousability works along the lines of intelligence, height...

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GSD: Not Just Another Queer Alphabet Soup

Posted by Margie Nichols

A couple of weeks ago, the Pink Therapy group in the UK made news by proclaiming 'GSD' - Gender and Sexual Diversities - as the new umbrella term for a community that seems to add letters by the season. Seriously, I've seen: LGBTQQIAA- lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex,...

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Sexual Identity and Children

Posted by Ian Kerner

Are younger people more likely to embrace their sexual identity? That's the implication of findings from a recent large Gallup survey. The survey, which asked 120,000 American adults whether they identified as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, found that 6.4% of people aged 18 to 29 said they were LGBT:...

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I Want To Watch My Wife Sleep With Someone Else. Is That Normal?

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

I want to watch my wife sleep with someone else. Is that normal? Believe it or not, you aren't the first guy who has fantasized about this. In fact, a similar scenario has even appeared on one of the Top 10 Lists of Sexual Fantasies that I have compiled on...

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Technology and Your Relationship

Posted by Ian Kerner

Are you spending more time with your smartphone than with your partner -- even during romantic dates? Technology allows us to be constantly connected to the world, but it can also make us even more disconnected from each other. In fact, two recent studies show that cell phones can have...

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Persnickety erections

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Talk to most teenage guys and you'll find that their erections seem to have a mind of their own - popping up when least expected or perhaps at a less-than-opportune time.  But for many men, the opposite can be just as disconcerting - desperately wanting to have an erection at...

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Relationship Boredom

Posted by Kristen Mark

Good in Bed Research recently conducted a survey to examine relationship boredom, and according to 3,341 readers in committed relationships, half reported either being bored or on the brink of boredom in their relationships. Further, 24 percent of people reported having engaged in infidelity due to boredom. "Boredom is basically...

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Why Do Straight Men Like Breasts So Much?

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

As you may have noticed, heterosexual men seem to have a certain fascination with women's breasts. Society feeds into this by putting the female chest on display everywhere from Hooters restaurants to nudie magazines to beer advertisements. But how do we explain men's obsession with these two mounds of fatty...

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Great Books about Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner

With the blockbuster success of "Fifty Shades of Grey," many people are curious about dipping their toes (not to mention other body parts) into more sexually adventurous waters. I'm always careful to make clear that while the adventures of Ana and Christian may make for a compelling erotic yarn, their...

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When and How Should You Talk to Your Kids About Sex in the Age of Internet Porn?

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

How are adolescent boys learning about sex these days? By pointing, clicking, and streaming through a seemingly endless supply of Internet pornography. That's right, online porn is now the default form of sex education for a growing number of young boys because they simply are not getting the information they...

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What Can A Man's Finger Length Tell You About His Penis?

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

Over the past decade, scientists have conducted a boatload of studies correlating finger length ratios with psychological variables. Specifically, they have focused on the ratio of the index finger (the second digit when counting from the thumb) to the ring finger (the fourth digit). Among the factors associated with this...

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Is Jumping Into Bed Quickly Harmful to Relationships?

Posted by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.

Are couples who start having sex right away not as happy in the long run? A new study has found that heterosexual romantic partners who had sex within the first month of seeing each other reported lower levels of relationship satisfaction, communication, and commitment compared to partners who waited six...

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Too Tired for Sex?

Posted by Ian Kerner

According to a recent study by the National Sleep Foundation, about one in every four married or cohabitating Americans claim they're so sleep-deprived that they're often too tired to have sex. It's not surprising why sleep trumps sex: Between work, family and social obligations, our need for shuteye often suffers....

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Let's have a sex-toy party!

Posted by Ian Kerner

Picture this: A group of female friends lounge around a living room, noshing on snacks and sipping wine. At the center of the circle, a woman gives a presentation on her wares, sharing bits of knowledge with the hope that some of the women will choose to purchase her products....

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Low Desire and Women

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Let's face it, it isn't so easy for women. On the one hand, you have women who were brought up to be "proper," "modest," "ladylike" (whatever that is!) and were told that desiring or even enjoying sex was not becoming. Then you have women who were taught that it was...

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Back Pain and Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner

An estimated eight out of 10 Americans will suffer from back pain at some point in their lives, according to the National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases. It's no surprise that can have big effects on what goes on in your bedroom: whether a temporary strain slows...

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Sex After a Heart Attack

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

The health benefits of sex are many:  It cuts your risk of heart attack or stroke. It burns calories. It boosts your immune system. It soothes nerves. And not only is this activity good for your health, but it feels fantastic, too. But what if you've already suffered from...

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Semen Volume

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

When it comes to semen volume, if you are comparing yourself to what you see in porn, you better stop right there and think again.  Too many people compare themselves to porn and somehow it doesn't sink in that IT'S A MOVIE and some aspects of it are FAKE.  A...

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