I have a foreplay question: kissing!
I am happy to say that I am currently in the most sexually satisfying relationship of my life (I am 43 and my boyfriend is 50). We are completely uninhibited (to say the least), have no sexual dysfunction (we both achieve arousal and orgasm when we want to) and have amazing sex drives, but we are always searching for ways to make our time together even better.
I only have one issue with our relationship. Kissing. I love the intimate connection and arousal I get from making out for about 10 minutes before the "real" action gets started. Him, not so much. I have told him how I feel about it, but I think we have only worked our way up to about 3 minutes kissing tops before the groping starts. How do I get him to put more time into just kissing?
Let him know that you want to be in control. You can say this verbally or by playfully pinning his arms to his sides or above his head.
Some people just aren't into kissing. And that's okay. You might try adding necking and massage to the 3 minutes of kissing that he is willing to provide. Let him know that you love kissing, touching and massaging his amazing body before "real" sex begins.
Sometimes there is something specific that a person doesn't like about kissing. It may be too much tongue, too little tongue, the partners breath, too much saliva....are some I have heard. You might try asking him which parts of kissing he likes best and which parts don't work so well for him. If you are willing to switch up your kissing style sometimes to be more in line with what turns him on he may enjoy the kissing more.
Thanks everyone! I will try again tonight and let you know if I have any success with your suggestions.
I pressed the issue with him again and he indicated that HE was the one concerned about his breath (with which he doesn't have an issue) and that he will try to get over his hang-up so we can have some more intense make-out sessions. Thank you again!