Oral problem
My wife loves to receive oral sex. I want to be the best, but her clitoris, seems very, very small to me. It get frustrating to me, and tiring, to stay on it. Is there a way to make her clitoris more easily accessible and responsive?
My wife loves to receive oral sex. I want to be the best, but her clitoris, seems very, very small to me. It get frustrating to me, and tiring, to stay on it. Is there a way to make her clitoris more easily accessible and responsive?
You certainly came to the right place! I'd recommend checking out Dr. Kerner's book, She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, for a wonderful how-to about oral sex and women's bodies. A wonderful thing about the clitoris is that it's much larger than meets the eye - it extends backward into the body by a few inches. That little part on the outside is just the part that one can see.
Though there's no way to make the clitoris more accessible, you may find that exploring with different techniques helps you to stumble upon one or more that she really enjoys. Plus, the inside parts of the clitoris can be stimulated by touching the inside vaginal walls and her mind can be stimulated by your excitement and enthusiasm about pleasing her.
I love She Comes First. Great book.
I love to have my clitoris kissed and licked, but lightly and slowly until just before I get ready to cum. Then I like it a bit firmer and regular. I also ask the man to finger me when I cum as he licks me down there, or put his tongue in me as far as he can.
I find it best that when a guy goes down on me, I bend my knees so my feet are flat on the bed or floor, and my legs are spread pretty wide open. It is natural for a girl to want to bring her legs together when a guy is between them, kind of a defensive reaction. But if you let go and spread them, the clitoris is easier to access by the guy.
Hope this doesn't sound yucky, but I also love when the guy is done and comes to lay next to me that I can smell my vagaina on his face. Huge turn on for me.
My friend's husband says that if a guy's eyelids aren't wet when he's done "down there" he ain't doin' it right!
If your wife loves to receive oral sex, then you're doing something right! It shouldn't depend so much on the size of her clitoris as in the way you are touching it. First, pulling back the clitoral hood (the sheath of skin that covers and protects the clitoris) will further expose the clitoris. Second, rather than placing so much focus ON the clitoris, you could try playing around it as well. There are plenty of nerve endings throughout the vulva that can be stimulated in addition to the clitoris. Third, try different motions such as back and forth, up and down, and circular to see which works best with her. If it is tiring, alternate between finger and tongue stimulation to give your tongue a break sometimes. Also, don't forget the communication!
Hi Seeker, you are ont the right track just by questioning and trying! With my ex-wife I noticed when we first tried oral sex that her clitoris became smaller... much smaller as she approached orgasm. While that was frustrating and I wasn't following through because of it, I decided to press on one night and WA LA! I never let her small (or shirnking) clitoris stop me again! Keep up the communication, you are on the right track!
When I go down on my partner she likes it, but it gets her turned on so much that she pulls me up onto her so we can have intercourse! Same thing when she goes down on me; she starts (which I like) and while she is giving me oral sex, I touch her between her legs. That too gets her ready for penetration, so I guess I don;t get much!