BEING PHOTOGRAPHED
My wife and I are both confortable with nudity around others in appropriate settings. We have had 5 boudoir collages made of us nude by professional photographers; probably 150 proof photos. We were both confortable with that photo shoot. I would like to have photos or videos made of us making love to include foreplay, oral sex, our normal toys, and intercourse. She says no but is loosening up in some other areas. Am I weird? Is she too prudish? Is it reasonable for me to gently continue to hint/push?
I think it is great that you guys have found an area that you're both willing to explore together. I don't think you should look at this in terms of whether you're too weird or she is too prudish. It seems that your partner feels there is a comfort level that isn't met when the nude photos are taken during sex, which I can understand. It is sort of like the difference between someone seeing you undress and someone seeing you have sex - big difference to some.
You could always set up a camera together in the privacy of your bedroom (without the photographer) as a introduction to it and see how that goes over. But I'd be understanding with her not wanting someone else on the other side of that camera.
There is nothing wrong or weird about this at all. You sound healthy and like you have an interest in being photographed and have some healthy exhibitionism.
When it crosses lines is when people post naked pictures of others against their will or you are doing so out of a place of hypersexuality or unhealthy reasons. You have not stated anything like that.
Have fun!
I have a different perspective to offer. For me, there is definitely a difference between nude photos and those that contain you and your wife engaging in intimate behaviors. There is nothing wrong in wanting to explore more explicit art; there is also nothing wrong in not wanting to document specific sex acts. I don't believe that this is about being a prude. Feeling uncomfortable or excited about having a permanent representation of sex acts - rather than nudity - doesn't make someone weird or prudish.
Thank you all for responding. Your insights are appreciated. We have used cameras on tripods or one of us holding the camera at odd angles and taking pics---it just lacks being able to be specific or adjust view, etc. And I would never share any of our pictures without my wife's approval. My desire as stated is probably tied to my fantasy of having sex in a group setting; even if we don't share others.