cunnilingus question
When I go down on a girl she tells me a lot of times to go faster with my tongue strokes. However, I feel like I should keep on slow and escalate later to build up more orgasmic pressure. What do you think? Should I follow what she says? I feel like lot of times even girls do not know what they want.
Also, when she is in pre-ograsm state I usually just keep on going to make her orgasm. But what can I do in order to slow down and keep her on the edge of orgasm to make her crazy?
I think that you may find that different women like different things. Some women would like it if you go slower, where others wouldn't. It's great that this woman is comfortable communicating with you what it is she wants/likes, so you should take advantage of that and listen to her!
Also, not all women want to be kept on the edge of orgasm, so although you can try this technique, she may end up liking it less than when you keep on going. Especially since women are capable of having multiple orgasms. But, if you do want to try it, take the focus away from the clitoris during this time and perhaps kiss her inner upper thighs or around her vulva. Then go back to the clitoris. Repeat...:)
Again though, appreciate the tips this woman is giving you! Also, the ebook Orally Pleasing A Woman is a great place for more detailed information on this topic!
Hey thanks for the answer!
Is that book different from what Ian wrote in she comes first? That's the best one I read so far!
SK,
For a man, to be kept "on the edge of his seat" before orgasm is usually a good thing. For a woman, for whom orgasming is more like driving uphill (as opposed to a man's downhill trying to put on the breaks and almost usually making it to his destination)..if she gets distracted, annoyed, feels misunderstood..well boom, window of orgasm opportunity closes and she's left with the female version of blue balls. Which does exist, very very much so! The short answer: Whatever she asks you to do, do it. Period. She knows her body and what she needs way better than you do. If you really want her to orgasm again, give her some time and do it again, but never go slower because you think that is what she needs.
FOLLOW WHAT SHE SAYS!!! That's all I have to say about that! :)
A woman who does not know what she wants will not tell you what to do. If she is telling you what to do, believe me she knows that's what she needs. If you ignore her, you will make her feel just that...ignored. If you listen and follow through you will be building great intimacy and trust in addition to a great orgasm. This will go a long way toward willingness to try new things and have better sex.
I just want to plug the Orally Pleasing A Woman publication that you can download from this site. DO preview it, and then go ahead and for $5.95 and no trees killed, its a MUST for any man (or woman if it fits) to read. Hello, need expert advice men---uh, yeah! PDF or other file forms available. No brown envelope in the mail, etc. Women, really nice Valentines day present, anniversary, seaonal holidays or just the the sun rose today present to give your man (or woman if applies). Pictures and arrows and all that :))
Different strokes for different folks (pun intended.) I'd follow what she says. If she likes to cum quickly when you go down on her, let her. I've never had any trouble cuming when getting licked fast or slow or both.
Gawd, unless you are prolonging her O on purpose to increase the intensity (it does work) then you'll just piss her off. Most women KNOW what they like andd what works for them. Many KNOW they have a window of orgasm - too much stim and the clit starts losing sensitivity. Too little and she just ain't gonna reach the top of that hill. Tease her as much as you want but when she says "FAST! NOW!" my suggestion is to DO IT!!