guy who is quick in bed
Does it matter to a woman how a man gives her an orgasm? If he's really good at foreplay, does that make up for him being quick with intercourse?
Does it matter to a woman how a man gives her an orgasm? If he's really good at foreplay, does that make up for him being quick with intercourse?
It completely varies from woman to woman! 70% of women are not particularly orgasmic from intercourse, so the majority of women will be more orgasmic through oral or manual or some other kind of stimulation.
That doesn't mean she wouldn't enjoy extended intercourse - it's a worthwhile skill to practice - but lots of women would be plenty happy to have a partner who's great with his hands, lips, and tongue instead of being focused on his penis.
Many women do not orgasm from intercourse alone. Most of the standard sex positions fail to provide direct persistent clitoral stimulation. That's one of the reasons the "woman on top" position is often effective, as it's one of the few positions in which a female partner can fine-tune the degree of clitoral stimulation. Foreplay, especially oral sex, can absolutely be extended into a complete act of love-making that encompasses the female orgasm. As a guy who suffered from PE, I always found it daunting to have to satisfy a woman via intercourse alone, and especially as she became more satisfied it was difficult to control my own excitement. But then I started focusing on oral sex as a more complete act, and once I became even more confident I was able to transition into sex-positions like woman on top. For more on this, you might want to check out my book, She Comes First, which is all about oral sex and turning foreplay into "coreplay."
I think its important to recognize that you describe that you are quick at intercourse. Which means that whether or not this is an issue for women in general or your women specifically is secondary to the fact that you have an issue with it. For this reason it is worth learning more about and working on developing a better understanding of why you may be quick to ejaculation when having sex.
I think it must be balanced. Foreplay is great--gets me moist enough for penetration, nipples aroused and hard, thinking of orgasm. Too much 4play can be tiring though, esp if late at night and I am already tired. Why do you want to rush?
Although this thread has been dormant for awhile, I believe my question is appropriate here. I suffer from PE and have had success using SSRIs and learning to "feel" my threshold ramp up and be able to manage it to some degree. My last girlfriend was easily aroused and able to have multiple orgasms before I would finish. Here's my question: my wife only has clitoral orgasms. She told me it's the only way she's ever been able to come. I am able to bring my wife to climax orally, manually, and with a vibrator or a combination of these. After orgasm she likes to be "pounded" hardly and quickly by me. However, as she is now tight and still contracting due to her orgasm (and this can last several minutes), I am only able to last under a minute and certainly under two minutes at best. Although my wife has never said anything contrary, is this amount of time satisfying? I'm not sure how this adds to her pleasure except possibly to the opening of the vagina? Any insight is greatly appreciated.