High Sex Drive Strange?
This is something that has been bothering me for a long time. I am a 42 year old woman and I have a very high sex drive. Often a higher sex drive then the men I am with. I was married and it even led to my divorce (well in part but it was a big issue).
You hear all over about how men think about sex several times a day and want to have sex all the time (I realize this is an over statement) and I am left to feel like a weirdo. I am not a woman who gets "headaches" and unless I am ill or something I am always up for having sex.
I only have sex in committed relationships (which I am in now) but still...is there something wrong with me?
Thank you - Rhea
There is nothing wrong with you at all -- at 42 it's completely natural for you to have a strong libido -- it's also a stereotype that men are always thinking about sex and raring to go -- I deal with many couples with mismatched libidos, and it's often the male partner with less desire -- sometimes it's just less desire for sex with his partner, and sometimes it's an overall diminishment of desire. My advice is to enjoy your sexuality -- with your partners and with yourself.
Not at all! I also have a strong sex drive. Orgasms are a great way for me to relax and escape from the trials of the day. I have small children and a demanding job, sex is my mini-vacation. If your desire is higher than your partners, its perfectly fine to enjoy yourself on your own. Have fun!
To me a high sex drive simply means you're healthy.
There is the stereotype out there that men want sex all the time and women rarely. Unfortunately that leads to men who don't want sex all the time or women who do feeling defensive about it.
As Ian said, a high libido in women is healthy and natural. There is only something wrong...if there is something wrong (so to speak).
In my practice, a high sex drive is sometimes a part of a larger constellation of symptoms, e.g., difficulty sleeping, skin and vaginal dryness (especially at night), lower backache, etc. (of course this isn't a complete list). If this sounds familiar or if you have an underlying health condition, you might want to get checked by your healthcare practitioner to make sure everything is okay. Otherwise, if you have a clean bill of health, then enjoy your libido!