Menopause and lubrication
My gal and I had a wonderful love life until she went off her HRTs and entered menopause. When we make love, it is uncomfortable for her even if we use lubes. I am assuming her discomfort is because she is dry. While we use lubes, it seems that just putting it on me and what she can get in her using her finger do not appear to be enough. Is there some technique or applicator that can be used to get larger quantities of the lube farther inside her to keep her slippery enough to enjoy sex again. Before menopause, we made love like 5 times a week and were closely matched in our libido now she only wants sex about once a month because it is uncomfortable for her.
Thanks,
There is a product your gal could try. It is a new product from K-Y called "Liquibeads". Its a long lasting vaginal moisturizer that can last up to 4 days. It's free of estrogen and is inserted with a disposable applicator.
Give that a try and see if it helps! I've heard really great things from post-menopausal women who have tried it.
There are a few great products for women who are going through menopause or who are experiencing dryness for other reasons. People seem to really like these and have good experiences with them.
On top of using a good lubricant make sure she's relaxed and fully aroused before you attempt penetration. If she's tense that too could lead to soreness.
My partner went through menopause about a decade ago however with enough foreplay she becomes extremely wet. So while from my understanding it's common that post menopausal women have trouble with lubrication it's not universal.
I was going to recommend the "Liquibeads" as well. Also, as you're looking ahead there's a great book called, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (Seal Press, 2006), By Joan Price. Might be a good read for her!