Wife masturbates behind my back
My wife and have been married for over 20 years with 2 teenage children. I purchased a vibrator a few years in an effort to "spark" our sex life. It did work. However, she now complains she has little to no interest in sex and yet I have caught her several times using the vibrator when I am not home (during the day when I am at work), when I am away on business and even when I am home. There have been a number of times when I have tried to initiate sex and have had her say she is too tired, only to be woken up in the middle of night with her masturbating in the bed beside me as she thinks I am asleep. When I confront with this, she has denied it and grows defensive. On two occasions, I caught her in the act. I explained it made me feel inadequate and I felt as though I had been replaced. But she continues to use the toy despite my feelings claiming it helps her sleep. We have a good marriage and communicate well in other areas except this one. My questions are as follows: Am I being too sensitive about this? Should I just let go of the issue? If I feel badly about myself and this situation I am correct in asking her not to masturbate behind my back anymore?