Am I Weird
im 29, ive only had sex once in my life and i have only had a handful of sexual encounters. i have a huge fetish of things i would like to try with a partner eventually. am i weird for my age?
im 29, ive only had sex once in my life and i have only had a handful of sexual encounters. i have a huge fetish of things i would like to try with a partner eventually. am i weird for my age?
Sounds like you are just very shy?
I mean, define "weird"? You say that you would like to try things with a partner eventually, making me think that now isn't the time for you, which isn't weird at all.
It's not weird at all. There are so many things I want to try. I'm 22 and haven't tried very much at all in my life. The craziest thing I tried was sex on a couch. But that curiosity is always there, but the two guys I dated didn't want to try anything new.
Maybe when you meet the right person, the sexual side of you will come out and you and that person can explore new options and try new things, just never rush and do it all in one week, space it out and keep the sex and love life's flame going.
There is nothing that is truly wierd when it comes to sex. People find things that don't arouse them wierd because they don't understand it.
If you have fetishes--truly obligitory sexual interests that you need to see, touch or fantasize about to have an orgasm--then find others with whom you share it. There are plenty of groups for just about everything.
Sex is more than just intercourse.
I definitely agree with Joe--we are told, from so many different sources, so many different things about what is "normal" when it comes to sex, when in reality sexuality is a realm where pretty much anything goes.
Full disclosure--I didn't have sex until I was 23 and I felt so abnormal, but then I realized that there are a lot of people who don't have sex when they're 15, 18, 20... it comes down to personal comfort and taste.
As for fetishes: they're freakin' great. You're not weird for having them and it's wonderful that you're already thinking about--and maybe exploring--them on your own. It sets the stage for you to be ready to talk to a partner about them when you meet someone you want to sleep with.
It's the isolation of not sharing your desires with a partner that make us feel weird. But as most people have said prior, there are many people who are turned on and sexually fulfilled by a range of experiences, people, and things. Consider it this way, at 29 you know what fulfills your sexually, not everyone can say that at 29, not everyone can say that at 109:)