Fear is Ruining my Sex Life
Growing up in the 80s, fear of AIDS was huge, and definitely impacted my relationship with sex. I was never ever to truly enjoy it wholeheartedly, as I always had an ember of fear in the back of my brain. Still, I managed to perform well all the way through into my 30s...however, I felt something significantly change as I turned 40. I've become even MORE fearful..I have performance anxiety, fear of herpes and disease, and just a generalized malaise. I went to a urologist and he said I just had anxiety. I know it's not physical because I can get an erection when I masturbate...but now when I'm with a women, I'm constantly thinking about staying hard, which of course has the opposite effect. My last relationship ended because we stopped having sex... I just felt repelled by her sexually, I found it a horrible thought...and she was a very pretty girl! After that relationship, I feel less inclined to enter into another, it's just been miserable... WHat can I do to make the worrying stop?