I'm interested to know why you've titled this post "Postpartum Sex" - did you recently have a baby? Were you pregnant when he left and gave birth since? If so, my response with be different than if you mean "Postpartum" in a different way. Let us know, and then it will be easier for us experts to chime in!

The postpartum issue aside...there's no way to determine what sex will be like after the months of separation. It may be tender, intense, quick, passionate - the adjectives are endless. But I can imagine that you have some anxiety about it. It's perfectly normal to feel that way.

If you love each other, absence should make the heart grow fonder, and I hope it's a tender reunion. Block out some chunks of time for intimacy.

You are understandable nervous that he will have changed, and that you also may have changed. At first it may even seem that way, but if you look just beneath the surface the same two people who loved and married each other are there, and sex is an affirmation of that. War is about as stressful as it gets...so give him some time to warm up and do not take it personally or be upset if he has some difficulty sexually in the beginning. With what he may have seen and lived through, some men and women do find it impacts them sexually. This is normal and with time, reassurance and readjusting back to civilian life it should disapate.

It's totally possible that it may be a little awkward at first--sometimes it can be hard to be with someone after such a long time, especially if you have wanted and missed him the entire time. I suspect that, even if it is a little different at first, the two of you will quickly get back in the groove and really, really enjoy being together again. Good luck!