BRIGHT on Oct 7, 2010 at 7:07 AM
If I had sex with my partner, it will take time (about 40 minutes) before I can go to my second round. Is this normal?
Well, I'll need more information before I can contribute too much to this question. I'm not sure whether you are a man or woman. Man parts need a little more time between ejaculation than female parts do between orgasm. Regardless though, there is a huge variation in the amount of time between orgasm folks need. Some people can go back to it right away, some people need a few hours in between. So, what is it you're looking for? A few more specifics and I can revisit this :)
Hey--assuming that you're a man, yes, this is completely normal. Heck, it's normal if you're a woman too, if you're implying that you're too sensitive for a while after you've orgasmed.
But yes, a lot of men have what is called a refractory period, where he is basically recovering from having just had an orgasm.
I can only comment from a man's perspective, but my refractory period (or as I like to call it cycle time between nice hard erections) has definitely gotten longer with age. However, there are things my partner can do to shorten that time like perform oral sex on me, talk dirty to me, and/or masturbate in front of me to reduce my cycle time so that we can both enjoy silky seconds.
Firefighter is correct in that as men age their refractory period typically gets longer. I think that it's important to realize that not every partner wants to have sex again right after an orgasm or ejaculation. (Sometimes, but definitely not always.) The lesson here is that we all need to talk to our partners more about their needs and expectations. We often get worried about whether or not we are normal, but every partner we have has different needs. If we don't ask them what they want or need sexually, it's hard to determine if they're being fulfilled. (And of course, they'll never know if we're satisfied if we don't share our needs, too.)
A little clarification to what Logan wrote. Sometimes you don't need to talk the mood will strike you both if you let it. A few months ago my partner and I were lounging around on the sofa after some afternoon delight. Her robe opened up, either accidentally or on purpose but who cares why, while she was sitting in an unlady like pose which caught my "attention". Needless to say we were back at like 2 teenagers and we are both long past our teenage years. Total cycle time, much less than 30 minutes. And there was no external stimuli involved like adult toys, reading materials, movies, etc. It was all mood. You just need to take the time to make it happen.
As always, have fun and play safe.