Lack of Communication
I've been with my boyfriend for about two years now, and the sex between us has dwindled down to about once a week. I've tried to explain to him that I would like to have sex more than once a week. It ends up turning into an argument about how I just view our relationship only about sex. I've read a few different discussions on doing alternatives to sex like cuddling, which I love by the way, or massages. Some other way to express my love for my boyfriend. He just ends up brushing me off. Not only does my issues involved sex once a week, but it seems like he doesn't want to do anything. He doesn't want to explore possible options of experimenting or acting out fantasies. Please I would love some kind help. Just an idea how I can communicate better with my boyfriend with the issues that are bothering me.
Hmmm, it sounds like you're doing a lot of things to make things right and he isn't really willing to listen to your concerns. If you have seriously made an effort to talk to him about this, it will be up to him to open up to the discussion. Communication takes two. And if he isn't willing to communicate with you about the issues, perhaps it is time to ask him whether he wants this relationship to continue or not. If he does, then he will have to learn to be reciprocal with the communication.
sometimes cuddling is not taken as such, but seen as a way to then have sex. Try saying you'd like to just cuddle or just trade massages with no possibility that it would lead to sex. That takes the pressure off (if he is feeling it) and may allow more affection.
am realy sorry tohear that.what i think is this,yo boyfriend could be having a affair or u are trying too much and he is getting bored
in most cases,men are the ones who crave for much intimacy and but in your case,its the other way round.try giving him more time and reduce the amount of affection yuo shower him with.that way,he will see that u have changed your attitude and he will want to know why,which will be yo chance to show him that it takes two to make it work and u have done yo part..it might work coz it worked for me.good luck dear
im having the same problem with my boyfriend. we have been together 3 years. im 25 and my boyfriend is 43. at the beginning we had sex almost every single day and he would go down on me. well for the past 6 months we have had sex maybe 4 times and he hasnt gone down on me in a year. we are together every single day so i know hes not seeing anyone. i try to talk about it and he just gets frustrated and we start arguing. he has no problem keeping it up. he says that its his prostate that hurts him and it hurts sometimes when we have sex. but he masturbates a lot and i just dont understand how it can hurt when we have sex and not when he masturbates?