Malik on Oct 14, 2010 at 9:07 AM
What is the actual and natural size of penis that can gratify the lady? Can it be made larger?
Well...the average size of a flaccid (soft) penis is from 3.1 to 4 inches and the average length of an erect (hard) penis is 5 to 7 inches. Most of a woman's nerve endings in her vagina are in the outer third. This is good news, because it means that physiologically penis length isn't all that important for pleasuring.
Women's preferences for size vary widely. Some women prefer more girth to length (this is what I most commonly hear), others prefer more length, others prefer large, and others still prefer average or small.
Regardless of the size of your package, that isn't the only way to "gratify the lady"! You've got plenty of other tools in your belt (fingers, tongue, toys, etc.) that are amazing at providing pleasure.
As for the oh-so-common desire to make it larger - NO! It can only be made larger by going from flaccid to erect. Any of those pills/potions/weights/devices you see advertised to increase penis size are gimmicks and can actually be potentially really harmful.
In the fire service we have a saying... it's not the size of the hose that's important but the skill of the firefighter operating the hose that really matters. Learn to use the equipment that you were given with confidence and you will do fine.
As always, have fun and play safe.
I agree with Firefighter, it's skill that matters. Bigger can also limit you as OhioGirl points out below. If you are are set on being bigger, you can see it something like the Real Feel Extension from Pure Romance works for you. It won't change the actual size of your own penis (and thus won't mangle it with crazy devises or exercises) but it can be a fun addition to the bedroom. Remember to use a drop or two more KY lube with this as well...
I would like to add that even though the average penis size soft is 3-4 inches, that is not true for many men and it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.
You can be a shower and a grower. Some men are hung longer when soft and do not grow much more. There are other men who might only be 1-2 inches soft but grow much bigger when erect.
There are lots of problems with surgeries which state they will make your penis longer. I actually had a client who underwent the surgery and was smaller than before. Please use a lot of caution and education before you ever consider this.
My 1st real boyfriend was pretty big, and we had some great sex, but when he really got thrusting in a rhythym inside me, I could not take all of him (I was @ 17). I showed him how far he could go in me, but in the heat of sex, he would often go too far. It hurt like a cramp, and then due to the pain, I could not relax or cum (at 17 I wasn't that good at orgasm anyway). We could only do 1 position that would let him put his whole cock in me, and it wasn't fun for me. The only thing I liked @ this was that when he came inside me, it was intense to feel his sperm so deep in my body. In the end, i did not like the sex and I would much rather have a avg size guy to have sex with. I had one time with a small guy that was OK too, especially anal sex.
Seeing that well over 70% of women say they rarely or never orgasm during intercourse it is important to find out how to give her an orgasm(s) all or any other ways that she enjoys and forget about yo dick. Most women who have dated will have a story or two about some huge guy they had sex with and unless they just had twins most of those women will admit a normal erection is MUCH more pleasurable than some monster that wouldn't even fit all the way in her vagina and don't even think of deep oral or anal!
Other than surgery there is only one way I know of getting a big dick. Die and come back as a rhino.