When Is It Time To Give Up?
I just read the article about Sex and the Baby Years, and it tells Dad's not to give up on sex. Well, it's been five years since the kids arrived, and this past year we've managed to make love maybe four or five times. I've tried everything I can think of: lot's of non-sexual touching (if we're on the couch together, I'm rubbing her neck or feet), giving her "space to want me" by not initiating anything more than cuddling (for six months), cleaning up around the house and usually bathing and putting the kids to bed when I'm home (she's a full time Mom, I'm home more often than not at night), asking her for advice on how I can make sex better for her, and complimenting her appearance every day. Nothing seems to help. I'm surely not perfect, but I really am trying to do all that I can.
It isn't even sex that I want as much as needing to feel wanted, but that seems to be too much to ask. I love my wife very much, but it's hard to believe she still loves me. What can I do?