Girl on Girl?!? NEED ADVICE!
Not exactly sure on how to ask this question. . .BUT my husband and I have been looking to spice up our sex lives. We've been married 11 years and are only 29, so we are fairly young. I recently confessed that I have a fantasy of being with another woman while he WATCHES ONLY! However I have no idea of how to make this fantasy a reality. I'm a stay at home mom and don't have much contact with women that I think would be into doing this. Any suggestions on how to find someone? It has to be a beautiful woman of course who is clean and I suppose comparable to me. I would like to do this for my husbands BIG 30!! Any advice about how to go about doing this would be wonderful. This is all new to me, since we have only been with one another. This I know would blow his mind!!
Less advice on how and more suggestion of caution before you go forward. You capitalized WATCHES ONLY... Sexual experiences that include others do exactly that include others. Make sure you and he is ready for that change. Even if he does not DO anything, how he does not do anything may also impact you and your sense of personal space with him.
I'd ask a friend for a referral. You also need to set major ground rules in advance @ what happens when, and afterwards. And what do you mean "being with another woman"? Are you ready for that?
Have u done girl/girl before? It ain't like putting on a French maid costume for him. You are gonna have to perform, and be with a woman having sex with her. I'd think some @ what you think it would be like.
There are a lot of websites and clubs for singles and couples looking to play with others. Do a Google search for your area, of swingers/swappers clubs and websites!
To echo Ed, I would also offer a note of caution -- fantasies are fantasies because they are not reality and allow us to explore taboos -- sharing your fantasies with your husband is one of the benefits of being in a trusting intimate relationship, and while I wouldn't want to hold you back from expanding the horizons of your sex life, I would also encourage you to enjoy the playfulness and intimacy of your fantasy lives -- making them a reality could be complicated.
I would be very cautious about this one. You never know how you are going to feel ahead of time.What if your guy starts showing more interest in the 'new' girl? It could make you feel hurt and jealous.From personal experience, it can make you feel really turned on to start with but then also very insecure the next. Are you ready to not always be the center of attention?
Well all I can say is that anytime my husband and I decided to act out a fantasy it was so great. Beyond our wildest expectations. Twice we had a threesome with my husband and another guy and me and then another time with him, me and another woman. Sure we were nervous but in the end it really made us have rocking sex for weeks and weeks after. Go for it! The guys we found on swapper net and the woman I just hired a really cute escort for a couple of hours. I let my husband choose which one he liked best. We always met in a hotel which I think is better than putting a stranger in your bed. Insanely excellent. Don't let life pass you by without going on this ride at least once.
Some good ideas on finding a partner. Did you guys estab any ground rules doing threesomes? Like condom use, what acts to perform, etc?
Paulina: I think you nailed it here on your point that threesomes are not just incredibly exciting when they happen, but they also spice up a couple's sex life-thru fantasy, desire, etc. 2x I have allowed my wife to have sex with a younger guy while I secretly watched. I have never been so excited/aroused/erect/nervous as when I saw her the first time get nude, jump into our own bed, and have the guy "go at it" with her for 30 minutes. She also let him go down on her, and even allowed him to go anal a little b/c she and I rarely do so, and she knew it would be a huge turn on for me. Since then we have done more anal, had more sex together, and now every time I think about them together, it makes me so hard I need to have sex with her! That does wonders for passion/frequency! Still have not joined in (not sure I want to) but who knows. She was scared at first @ a stranger but once they did it she loved it. Her first comment to me was "you gotta kiss my p*ssy a lot more from now on!"
NYG: she sounds great saying something like that to you!
I would love to hear more @ how YOU felt watching, not b/c I want to be voyeuristic but because it is such a huge departure from normal human sexuality to allow a spouse/partner to be with somebody else, and when you throw on top actually watching, that is incred interesting. Did you ever feel like jumping out of the closet to say "STOP!" or did you want to join in? What did you do while you were in the closet watching? What did u and wife talk about when the guy left?
Fascinating to me...