Husband Attracted to Pre-op Transsexuals
My husband of 9 years revealed that he is only attracted to pre-operation or non-operation M2F transsexuals. He had such relationship 20 years old briefly while in college. Our sex life is non-existent for the past 2 months. Is my marriage over? Please advice.
Before you write things off, you need to have a lot of communication about your sex life with him. What was the sex like before these last 2 months? If it was satisfying for both of you, what has happened to change that? If he had a relationship with a pre-op M2F Trans 20 years ago, then it seems that his attraction to them is not a new development. What contributed to your sex life prior to 2 months ago? You may also benefit in speaking to a sex therapist or a couples therapist together if you both agree to work on it and need assistance communicating about it.
It is important to know that his attraction to pre-operation and non-operation M2F transsexuals doesn't necessarily reflect anything on your marriage at all. Fantasies and sexual desires are often arousing because they are inherently taboo.
It doesn't sound like your marriage is over unless he is telling you he needs to partner with a transexual. It could be a fetish for him which he needs to think about or see in order to have orgasm and stay aroused.
I wonder like Dr. Castellanos what changed in the last two months. It is worth asking him and seeking therapy with a trained sex therapist in your area.