Oral Sex Issue
Usually my wife will perform limited fellatio on me, prior to intercourse. I wish it were longer but she gets aroused too much to continue and wants me inside her right away. Sometimes, however, if she is very aroused and if she has had a few glasses of wine, she wants to give me head until just before I ejaculate, then take my penis out of her mouth so I cum on her face. Note--we do not watch porn (in which I know that this is common) and it is not at my suggestion. It is very exciting at the time, but later I feel embarrassed or ashamed at this. She never mentions it or talks of it next day, and does this only in bed, in dark, at night. Not sure if I should be thankful for what I'm getting (which feels awesome), or discuss it with her and risk ending bj's. She is the best woman at oral sex I have been with since college parties 15 yrs ago, I don't want her to quit....
It sounds like your wife and you have a really healthy sex life! Your last statement was that you didn't want her to quit giving your oral sex and she gives you the best oral sex you've had. Therefore, I wouldn't risk ending the blowjobs. However, do you really think that talking to her about it will end them? How come?
It is important that you know that it isn't just pornstars who take ejaculate to the face...lots of everyday people find this arousing, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Also, the fact that she isn't saying anything about it and still doing it tells me that it doesn't bother her at all, and that she actually likes it! Otherwise, you likely wouldn't be seeing repeat performances.
I can bet she knows that you are ashamed the next day, so bringing it up won't be a surprise to her. Your goal is just to clear the air I think, so you might just start with the general statement of how lucky you are to have a woman that is both demure and wild...You might consider reminding her how much you love having sex with her because you have a good range of sexual behaviors in the bedroom -- as long as you keep it either humorous or in the "damn I'm so lucky" tone there shouldn't be any shame. Next, ask her if she has anything "kinda kinky" (wink wink, nudge nudge) she wants..this will open the floor for more open conversation. Later on you might talk about it more directly, but this warm up is a good start. Pick a good time to talk (maybe when there is a glass of wine involved and she is feeling sexy) rather than forcing it..Good luck, let us know how it goes!
I don't have that much experience with this kind of thing, but on the few occassions when a man has ejaculated on my face I find it demeaning. I disagree with Kristen Mark--it stems from porn, and that is where guys get the idea that somehow it is sexy. I am OK with swallowing, but not this, unless it is accidental or something like that.
I don't like it that way either.
I'm OK with them cuming on my chest if I am topless, and most guys like this (I think cuz they see it in porn a lot.)
NYGiant: I don't find it intimate, I find it silly looking! Maybe I should go for it that way more in the dark. B4 contacts I wore glasses in college, and a guy unexpectedly (to me that is!) ejaculated while I gave him oral before I was ready, so his load went all over my glasses...
Ladies-thanks, I talked to her a little and basically asked if she was OK with me ejaculating on her face, why she liked it, and if it was OK for her. She said that at first she had seen porn where girls do that and wanted to excite me, but after she did it several times, she liked the incredible intimacy of my cum on her face and mouth; and also that it made her feel slutty in bed, which was a major fantasy for her that she loved to act out. I am very OK with it. I don't want her to demean herself, and since she is kinda the "girl next door" type, it was just a little disconcerting for me to see. Last night, after our intercourse and her orgasm, she flipped me on my back, stradled my knees, and gave me a super blow job, and swallowed. When she was done she looked at me and said "just being slutty!"
Your wife needs to sign on here and tell us all @ her great techniques, she sounds awesome. Is she available for "in home" consultations!?!?! LOL
Deirdre: LOL! She might be!