I am 52 divorced about 1 year. I started dating this man who blew me away as he was extremely bright, funny, successful etc. We ended up having sex one night and I am far from a prude but he started talking about a riding crop, fisting, and nipple chains. Honestly, I'm not adverse to the chains but what concerns me is that the next day my entire breast area was bruised. No man has ever done that to me and being it was our first time sent red flags. I showed my girlfriend and she said I looked like I just got beat up. When he initially grabbed my breasts I thought it was a little rough but I was so into the moment it didn't really effect me. When I arrived home that night I told him I wasn't into S&M and his response was "it not all it's cracked up to be". I never told him about the bruising because I ended it shortly to focus my energies on me. We have since reconnected and I honestly like this man on so many levels but I'm concerned about how rough is rough.