Strange Roommate Situation
I am trying to help a co-worker. She & her roommate were watching a movie, drank a bunch of wine. The movie was Bound; has lesbian scenes in it. Roommate got turned on, got into bed with her after movie. My friend (who admits drinking too much) was passive, but allowed her roommate to go down on her, finger her, kiss her boobs. They didn't kiss on mouth, my co-worker didn't do oral on roommate, just kind of laid back & let it happen. Co-worker came 2x. Roommate went slept there rest of night. Co-worker thinks this is all that happened. Now both embarrassed, but not sure both recall all the details due to wine. Co-worker feels strange since they still live together, have not spoken about it much, and hasn't happened again. My husband thinks she should move out, but $$ prevents it. She doesn't know how to move on/handle it. I think I'd talk to roommate about it, agree not to drink so much, and shrug it off. What do you think?
How close were they--just roomates or lifelong friends? Although embarrassing, one night of drunk bicuriosity should not kill the relationship. I had similar tho' hetero situation happen. In college before spring break a snow storm stranded me at my apt while everyone else left, except for 1 of my roomate's girlfriend. Nothing happened for 2 days-we studied, watched TV, etc. We also talked a lot, got to know each other, and...it happened. She asked me 2 sleep in her boyfriend's bed with her. I did and it led to sex. Prob makes no difference but it wasn't all that steamy like in the movies: I had no rubber so I came on her belly, and she did not cum at all. It was dark, under covers so we did not see much of each others' bodies, except her chest. @ 2 weeks later we did talk about it, admitted it was a mistake, and were very friendly with each other the rest of the year. Maybe that is unusual but it did not seem so hard to talk it out.
I think they have known each other for some time, def. before they shared an apt.
I agree that they should just talk about it and figure it out for themselves. Whether it is a man and a woman or two women, it doesn't really matter. Talking about it will help decrease the anxiety and help them set parameters for the living situation and their friendship.
They did chat about this, and all seems to be OK now. I think that my co-worked was embarrassed about being with a woman, but the fact that she came twice with her now makes her feel nice! The roommate admits she has been curious @ being with a woman, liked it, but she still feels drawn more to men sexually.
This hit home for me. I had long term roommate, both of us in our 20s, got along great. Last summer when my boyfriend was deployed, I was hormonal, horny, missing him. I am not shy @ sexual issues, though not slutty type. I think since I had not had sex wth my b.f. in 6 mo's, I flat out told her that I missed "Rob" and was horny, did not want to cheat on him & masturbatn wasn't gonna do it. I asked her if she would "help out." She thought @ it for @ 10 min & willingly agreed. We did NOT "get it on" together, she did not get naked (I did)-I had use my vibrator on me inside and outside my vagina, until I could cum. The only touching we did was she held my hand when I came, and laid with me for 1/2 hr afterwards. It wasn't sex together really, it was really her doing the masturbation for me so that i could also be with somebody I trusted, and not be alone. She was totally cool with it, never told "Rob," and did it for me 3-4 more times next 6 mo. Its a deep secret we share-I like that!
It would probably turn your boyfriend on to hear about should you choose to share some day.
I got turned on reading it too!
I agree! Or he might want to watch it happen in order to see what arouses you and makes you cum. That could be very useful for both of you!
I thought I had written in response to this already but I do not c it posted. I did tell my boyfriend. He LOVED it, esp because he knew I wanted him so bad that I was willing to have someone else help me get off with a vibrator. I have not told her that Rob knows, she might be embarassed by that although I am not sure @ that. Rob also did not know that I had a vibrator, which I bought after he left for depolymt. Interesting thing was Rob asked me to show him how I masturbate with it, which I did, and he really got off on that. It also showed him what I liked and disliked "down there," and he paid full attention. We have started to add use of vibrator to our sex (not every time), and that has been great.
Maybe this kind of thing is really what went on with my co-worker's roommate. I think it happens more than we r willing to talk about. OhioGirl's story is familiar to me too. In college every so often at night my 2 roommates & I would masturbate together in 1 bed or 2. We usually did not touch each other sexually, most times we had on pajamas or sweats, turned lights low, soft music, wine. No one ever kissed or "made out." We talked in whispers. Sometimes one of us would hug or hold hands with the other, stroke hair, that kind of thing. It was all about our own sexual release in the company of close girl friends, no pressure from guys or to perform. Only sometimes would we touch sexually in order to help one of the other girls climax, but that was almost always ltd. to slow caress of breats or thighs, never touching between the legs. We never told anyone else, and even 2day we don't mention it.
Deirdre--sounds awesome, wish I had more experiences like that too.
Very cool...and hot!