how do you give the most amazing kisses?
I am just beginning to date after being married for a very long time. My husband would not touch me for the majority of our marriage. Now that I am beginning to date, I am looking for tips on how to give a man the most amazing kisses that will leave him a bit dizzy and wanting more. I went out with a man that told me I have very soft and sexy lips. I have the closed mouth part down. What I am looking for are tips about what to do with your tongue once your mouths part (should kissing progress beyond this stage) and the best ways to cause your mouths to part. Thanks!
Well, the best way to cause your mouth to part is just to open yours a little by softening your jaw. Sounds like you are already giving some great kisses! When it comes to the tongue, take it slow and explore the tip of his tongue with yours. If you go slowly, it will seem very natural where to go from there.
Think of your tongue as extension of emotions -- what are you feeling and how can you express that with your tongue? Are you feeling tender and loving, or passionate and bold? Coy or aggressive? A kiss is an expression of a mood, and an expression of a connection. Don't worry about how you're kissing, just let yourself go and let yourself feel. Lead with your mind and your tongue will follow.
See what he does with his tongue and do the same thing back! As Dr. Castellanos said, softening your jaw and lips is key. Also don't be afraid to venture away from the lips and go to the neck and ears - this is part of kissing too. Start with small soft kisses on the collar bone, neck and ear. Once you get to be a pro you can alternate with more aggressive nibbles. Kissing is a very big part of what keeps a relationship "hot" -- stay in the kissing phase as long as you can!
Kissing for me is the most erotic foreplay. It is one part that jump-starts everything in an intimate activity. There is no standard norms actually in kissing except one has to open his/her mouth and starts to explore each other's body. Your concern perhaps is that you are just too conscious in the way you're kissing your man. Though often, you feel a kind of stiffness but try to relax a bit and feel the sensation that it brings.