Husbands and Oral Sex
How do you get your wife to give oral sex at request and not only during the act of sex? Or is this a unusual request for a man to ask his wife?
How do you get your wife to give oral sex at request and not only during the act of sex? Or is this a unusual request for a man to ask his wife?
I don't think this is an unusual request. But it is a little one-sided. I think the best way you could go about doing this is to offer her oral sex one night (without expecting anything in return). Then a couple of days later, ask her if she would be willing to give you oral sex. Tell her how hot you find it when she goes down on you without expecting anything in return. Making sure she knows how much you love her skills will give her motivation to do it.
Agreed! Sounds fair. Thank you.
You could also just say, "I want you to go down on me." Works like a charm!
Tried that one and that didn't go over to well! Lol
Cajun, I know firsthand how difficult it is to get this conversation started, but you two must talk about what is important to you both. I think that most men would like to get more "head". Kristen and Anna both have given great advice and I would give their suggestions a try.
How to get the dialog started was the really tough part for me. It also was difficult to know when to get the conversation started. Then one day, the timing seemed just right. My ladyfriend and I were talking about being together (we live at a distance to one another)and I just suggested to her that oral sex would be something that would make me very happy. On her next visit she made sure that was the first thing that happened. Asking for what we need can be the most important and difficult thing we do IMHO.
Sometimes people view oral sex as part of foreplay leading to intercourse rather than a stand-alone sexual activity. If she feels this way, it wouldn't really make any sense to her to give you oral sex at other times. Also, she may feel "left out" if she feels you are getting what you want, but she is not. Do you ever just give her oral sex without intercourse just for the hell of it, not asking for anything in return? Kristen's idea sounds worthwhile. Also, ongoing communication about sex at neutral times is very important for a couple.
I can tell you as a married woman, I LOVE knowing that I'm giving my husband pleasure. Try it on her a few times and if she doesn't repay the favor then just tell her how you would love to not have to worry about performing and just relax. There is nothing wrong with that. Married couples go through so much we shouldn't feel as though we cant discuss sex. It is such a huge part in being married. I think if we vow to be with only one person there shouldn't be any rules between us. NO HOLDING BACK. Anything goes that we are both okay with. We've been this way for quite a while now and I think our relationship has NEVER been better and we are going on 11 years. Good luck!!
I totally agree, although I am not married. I surprise my boyfriend periodically with a random BJ, not expecting to have sex or get off myself. For me it lets my own excitement build up over several ours or days and makes my own orgasms more intense.
I think when a woman no matter wife, girlfriend etc knows that she has very good skills giving a blowjob, that you can easily incorporate it into your sexual regimn. Whether it is foreplay or she does down on you during. The key point here is "excitement". When giving awsome head normally a woman will get into it, feel the vibe, hear her favorite song in her head and move to the beat making even more sexual heightening you anticipation of entering her for sexual relations. But the key is to keep it going and making the man wait and anticipate but not too long.. Upon entry the initial thrust is so exhilerating because the man is so excited and the woman is wet and wanting... You both get the pleasure out of the simple act of a BJ... give it a try... Best wishes.