Is this natural?
So, recently, as some readers of this forum know, I watched my husband with a neighbor of ours (female). Prior to this I was a total introvert sexually, never really felt comfortable talking about it or expressing myself sexually. However, since this occurred, I feel like I have taken a very quick, 180 degree turn in my sexuality. I now feel more at ease talking about sex, I also find myself thinking about that night constantly and has stirred up so many other thoughts in my mind. My husband and I now talk more openly and he reassures me it is natural that I am feeling this way and that he is in total support of me exploring these new feelings. Why the sudden turn though? Is it normal for my feelings and attitude on the subject to turn so rapidly? I find myself replaying that night over and over in my head and enjoying it immensely.
MM: you've been let out of the cage of conventionality--in fact you let yourself out of the cage--you took charge of that. That infers, to me, this is my opinion only, you have been suppressing this desire for MORE for some time and finally had the ovaries to do it (female counterpart to "balls"). Kudos to hubby, too. What's the saying..."don't look the gift horse in the mouth...". Even here in your post you are sharing, again, your excitement and newfound energy--your true self is out! Ride this wave, in the same thoughtful, considerate, careful yet explosive way. Hang ten! I very much hope you continue to share your experiences--both of you. It puts a spark in my day, any day. Cheers
Thank you WD and I believe you are right. While some of these feelings I harbored for some time, I truly tried to convince myself that 'this is not me', 'I am against this kind of stuff, why I would even be thinking about it', etc...I think there was a mix of things that led me to finally opening up about - perhaps a little boredom or predictability slipped its way into my marriage (which he and I both agree on), recently getting back to a weight I am truly comfortable with (a healthy 140 - I am 5'8) and some other things. Whatever it is I am going to enjoy and let myself be me. I so cherish a forum like this because it allows me to open up without fear of being judged. Unfortunately many of my 'friends' would find this lifestyle to be inappropriate.
I think that you should absolutely enjoy this new-found sexual freedom you've experienced! It is entirely normal for your thoughts and feelings on the subject to have turned so quickly - you experienced it - and loved it! So, continue to enjoy yourselves.
Good for both of you for increasing the sexual communication in your marriage. Research supports, again and again, that being sexually satisfied contributes to relationship satisfaction. So I'm sure that having opened these doors, you and your partner will be more satisfied than ever before. Just make sure you continue to communicate openly about how both of you are feeling. Be careful to be considerate of each others feelings and acknowledge that there could come a time when you might not both be on the same page. Communicating will ensure you will stay on the same page!
Thank you so much Kristen. Your responses and words are always so comforting, you are quite lovely too if you dont mind me saying so.
Communication for us has already improved dramtically, which leads to a happier, more comfortable relationship. I am so happy with how things have progressed and improved so far.
The exciting part for me now is the pursuit of this other guy. My husband continues to be super supportive, and the texts with the other guy are ongoing and this is so much fun, so much more enjoyable than I thought it would. Brings me back 12 years or so to my early college days :)
Hi sweetie. It is nice to see Kristen's comments reinforce what I have been telling you. This is completely natural and there is nothing that should make you feel uncomfortable about these new found feelings. I think the both of us are beginning to go through some changes in how we view sex and they have all been extremely positive. I love you so much, not only for what has happened in our marriage recently, but for everything since the day we met. For instance, me being so engaged and excited by this 'chase' for another guy, I mean who would have thought that I would be this into it?!? I love you!
Hi! First of all that sounds really fun. Just to add to the "why" you seem to be pondering, I have a few thoughts. 1- Trying out this arrangement adds a whole new "dimension" to the possibilities. Like if you had a language with only nouns and verbs, then you add adjectives and adverbs. The number of possible combinations and meanings just exploded! 2- Watching/seeing. You got to see your husband and sex, but from this point of view you were outside the woman's body in question. It was still your husband and you were still there and there was still womanliness involved too.. but this time you got to see what your husband looks like having sex with a woman from outside that woman's body. That's a whole new perspective for you! 3- Maybe you have a bit of a scientist/observer in you... you get to take notes and see all the different movements and meanings, but not having to DO them at the same time- free time to really take it all in and ponder it and replay it over in your mind's eye.
Interesting take Shane, there is probably a lot of truth in that for me. The biggest thing for me was seeing her reaction to his size, I dont know why, but that was such a huge turn on for me.
Somewhat disconnected...but MM I had a very positive "size" response to Violante Placido's awesome nipples in the George Clooney movie "The American"--just got it on BluRay. WOW what a dream woman. OK, she's my new fantasy--but I digress. Q: do you think another man won't measure up to your hubby gynosceros dick? Are you experiencing any anxiety over that? Just wonderin'. Be well & keep posting. Best Thread Ever :)
Has she asked to do it again? Would you, with her?
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Thank you! It was not my intention to start such a hot topic. I do appreciate this forum, and especially all of the input from both the professionals and non-professionals. I dont want this to become some explicit topic as well, just a forum for open and honest discussion.