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By walla on Feb 19, 2011 at 7:19 PM

im having trouble with coming very early during sex.

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Ian Kerner | Feb 21, 2011 at 11:35 AM | Reply | Report

We have many articles related to premature ejaculation, and also sell an eBook on the topic -- just type "premature ejaculation" into our search box and there will be enough there to keep you busy for a while.

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Amy Levine | Feb 21, 2011 at 12:00 PM | Reply | Report

First, it's important to suss out the cause--are you on any meds, are there psychological issues at play, etc. If it seems like it's more related to habit, rather than a serious issue, it's possible to last longer.

And, the key is related to masturbation-experimenting with and understanding your arousal arc.. So, it would be great if you can let us know if you do have solo sex and what happens when you do (regarding sensitivity, duration and any key observations).

My clients are successful in going from 1 minute to many because I work with them to retrain their mind and body. A lot of it has to do with breathing techniques, getting to know their body better during masturbation, and using what they learn when they are with their partner. The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia & Douglas Abrams is a good place to learn the basics to overcome PE, as it's the same foundation as becoming multi-orgasmic.

Paul | Feb 22, 2011 at 10:47 AM | Reply | Report

I believe anxiety has a lot to do with it. Sometimes that anxiety comes from the very issue itself. Other times its unrelated issues that manifest themselves in the bedroom.

It like a cruel quirk of nature but, in my experience at least, when women are stressed it takes them longer to orgasm versus men who are stressed cum quicker. Not the best match when you're both stressed. :-(

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Ed Ratush | Feb 22, 2011 at 5:56 PM | Reply | Report

Try getting an erection and not do anything sexual with it. Just stay erect for as long as you can. See if you can keep yourself erect for 30 minutes. You can use your hand to manipulate but do not masturbate and do not ejaculate even when you think the exercise is done. Do this daily x 14 days. See if things are different.

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