When you are a 70 year old woman living alone?
I would so love the touch of a man, leading to sex. But, there has been no man to touch, for at least 10 years. I have a fabulous electric vibrator-but that doesn't do it.
I am pretty and can still pass for 50-believe it or not. Men I meet are just too old and want only friendship, too young and not interested (a good 30 years younger), etc.,.
Oh, I know of two men interested, but all their baggage and depression hit on me, too---do not need that.
So, here I sit or go out with the girls to concerts and to eat, or with my great seniors group, where men seem to prove just people and not men. I laugh at my religious organization-all the men are married, so old they are having trouble getting around and want a woman to take care of them, or under 25. Myself, due to back problems, I cannot get terrible active to go a lot of places to meet more people.
I just want some male attention.
Thanks-
Channah, what do you mean the two men interested have too much baggage? Why can't you still go out with them and set boundaries on things you do and don't want to talk about?
What about going on some dating sites where men are looking for older women? What I know is that dating and getting attention demands persistence and open-mindedness. Don't give up.
I agree with Joe that you should perhaps give those two men a chance and just let them know up front that you'd like to keep it light and not have baggage brought into the relationship - start fresh. The older we get, the more experiences we have, and therefore the more "baggage" we gather. It will be unlikely for you to meet someone without some sort of "baggage" who has lived life, loved, and lost. So, maybe give it a chance!
Also, if you do try the online dating thing, you'll be able to post your picture (allowing potential partners to see how young you look) and say something about yourself that indicates who you are and what you're looking for. It is a great way to meet people and you will certainly get the male attention you are seeking!
To Joe and Kristen-
They two men I mentioned----once I was engaged to years ago-he always expects the worst to happen and hates life-we have gotten together on and off, but I end up so in the dumps over all his problems and his life outlook. (Once he was not this way).
The other, is 83, still mourning his wife who died 4-5 years ago, and that can get me down after awhile. Also, he is a very old 83 year old....his driving scary....he walks and talks old. Etc.,.
I have tried the web sites, and found a few interesting--who lived clear across the country. I don't belong in the middle of ultra conservative corn country, but my children are here, so do not want to move. The men here---------oh my gosh!!
Hi Channah - totally understandable that you don't want to get involved in the kind of situation you describe here. I'm glad you've had some interest in the online dating - I do think that is likely your best bet.
As for the ultra conservative corn country - I understand. I moved from Canada to the Midwest...so you can imagine how much of a culture shock in terms of the conservative climate was for me. However, I will say, there are more like-minded folks to you in your corn country than you might think. My advice is to keep at it with the online dating...try to narrow your searches to a drivable distance for you. And, while you're waiting to stumble upon someone geographically close to you, you can always skype or video chat with the men clear across the country to hold you over!
Channah: I love older women. You'd be about the right age for me...but I have baggage...I'm married. I'm not sure why Joe and Kristen wouldn't believe you when you said the two men, sort of in your life, had baggage...I believe a woman when she says something like that. But they are awesome commentators and do have some useful advice and empathy for you. I very clearly, however, hear you. You want to feel the therapeutic and erotic touch of a flesh and blood man. Some sweet seduction would float your boat. So my suggestion, how about a cruise? Great way to meet men. Do some research on which ones would be best bets to find a man for some romance. I believe you when you say you could pass for 50...most dating sites are all about what your picture says about you. Keep workin' it, girl, its all about the time and effort you put into getting what you want and need. Anyone else have some concrete suggestions? I've been out of the marketplace a little too long. Cheers!
I said that to Channah only because my clients and friends say it all the time before fully giving the men a chance oe realizing you can set boundaries with dating partners. That said itntotally makes sense why their baggage is too much given what youmexplained Channah.
wD, that is a wonderful idea about the cruise! Also usually the city you live in offers community events and perhaps attending those would help you meet men.
I am 80 but in very good conditions and very physically active. Most people would my age in the late 50’s
I empathize with this women and would love to give her what hse needs because that
Is exactly my needs.
I’ve looked at dating sites, but frankly I
don't trust them.
Best wishes to this woman and hope she finds her quest.