Threesomes
Before me, he was in a FWB relationship with a bisexual woman and got to experience three-somes. He loves to watch woman-on-woman porn (I watch porn with him many times)and I know it's a fantasy of his that someday I'll want to try this.I'm somewhat open to this... maybe someday but not now. He doesn't pressure me and says it's a fantasy that he doesn't need fulfilled.Our sex life is excellent and we're both very open-minded and we can talk about anything. Will I be enough for him if I don't want to experience a woman? Can it really be "just a fantasy" for him?
Background: We've been together about 2.5 years (we've lived together for 1.5 yrs). I am 51, which is 15 years older than he is and I came out of a long, painful, sexless marriage. Everything about our relationship works. He has changed my life-I've done the same for him. We are talking about marriage.
I, at 71, am also in a relationship with a younger man who has suggested a threesome. But, after a lot of discussion, I have reach the conclusion, as pointed out by your partner, that all fantasies don't have to be acted on. We talk about scenarios including another partner as part of foreplay and arousal ... and leave it at that. My advice is to relax and enjoy!
I agree that it can exist just as a fantasy and doesn't have to be acted on, especially if he's telling you just so. Enjoy your relationship now, continue with the wonderful communication, and have fun. Coming out of a sexless marriage, you should not rush yourself. Take time to really explore all aspects of your new sex life. If it ain't broke.....
Thank you! It's definitely working as it is and just talking about "options" is certainly part of foreplay. I don't want to miss any red flags but I also don't want to become paranoid and mess up a great thing.
You can also just roleplay the fantasy if it feels safe to both of you. To do this, you could blindfold him and use different props, voices and touch to make it seem that another woman has been added to the mix.
Its wonderful to have fantasies especially with a younger man it can give you something to think of and make you more excited for your lovemaking with one your with and heighten the experience for both of you.
Here's an update to the post I made Mar. 6. We HAVE acted out one of our threesome fantasies - MMF and I have to report it was wonderful! My partner (of less than a year) is extremely supportive and reassuring, as my only reluctance was that the encounter might endanger the rather remarkable relationship we have. He's 66, I'll soon be 72. Neither of us is interested in moving in or marrying and although we have not declared this to be a monogamous deal ... it's sort of working out that way. The man we chose is 59, very careful not to unbalance the status quo of me and my partner. My REVISED advice. If you find another partner, go for it. It can only add to the sexual excitement and pleasure for all!