little italy on Mar 28, 2011 at 11:04 AM
Why would a man prefer to masturbate all the time instead of having sexual intercourse?
Ease, less effort, quicker, more direct stimulation, fewer distractions, less risk of disappointment, no availability of partner, less physical exertion, no risk of rejection, 100% attention on him, bored, no judging from others, no conversation required......
You raise a lot of good points. Maybe I need to reconsider my preference for sex. :-)
Good question! I have been married for 15 years and my husband would rather masturbate than have sex with me.
Have you let yourself go or something? I can't imagine that.
Are you serious? It's her fault because she let herself go?! My husband loves me if I'm a size 2 or a size 22. Maybe it's him that has let himself go. How shallow!!
I think the two main reasons men masturbate would be: availability of pleasure and control. The first part I mentioned, availability of pleasure, means that he is able to do it whenever he feels like it. Men don't experience very much availability of pleasure in a relationship because the time that a man is in the mood for sex may not be the same time a woman is in the mood. The second part, control, refers to the man being able to control what he looks at and the speed/grip of his self pleasure. With masturbation, a man is able to get pleasure by watching a variety of sexual acts with a variety of women and can throw in some of his own imagination into the mix.
On a more serious note...for me the sensation of having a woman touch me by far exceeds the sensation of touching myself. Given a choice between sex with a woman and masturbating I would choose the woman every time.
I have to think a man who prefers masturbation over sex does so because it requires less effort. He can concentrate fully on his own fantasies and pleasure without having to concern himself with his partner. This may be due to fears about his virility (real or perceived), negative patterns with his partner that make him decide it's not worth it, or simply laziness.
So, I guess what your saying is that it's more enjoyable to masterbate? I asked my hubby and he said there is something about intercourse that makes you feel more satisfied,and he also thinks it might even be a chemical thing. So I think if someone is in a relationship and all they want to do is masturbate....why be in a relationship? I am not going to be anyone's maid or housekeeper!
Most men prefer it because it's easy and less time consuming that's asking or begging for sex! Especially if they are married! Much easier than dealing with rejection from the wife!
I understand that it's easier but what if I want sex far more than he does. Is a marriage doomed I'd he prefers his own pleasures than being intimate with me?
My partner prefers masturbation. Until recently he had a porn addiction as well. I'm not talking about once in a while, more like daily. He does not have ED. He does not ejaculate prematurely. Everything works fine. He simply prefers his own company. For me, I am very sexual. I will play out fantasies, role play whatever! I love sex and I miss the intimacy. For me, sex is a huge part of a relationship. This is killing me and us. I'm at a loss. I've tried everything. I would hate to lose someone for this one reason but it's a huge reason in my book!
Your partner is a mama's boy who jacks off and is a self centered little jerk.Correct me if i'm wrong but a man who prefers his hand over pussy is just lazy. Yes we all do it but not when your significant other is in the mood to fuck. Find someone else, do it now. don't worry about him he can go in the shower and whack off. Hey girl wake up.
My husband told me yesterday that there is days he would rather jack off instead of have sex with me. I just don't understand. I am always willing to have sex when he wants. I have never turned him down and I love sex. I would go at it 3 or more times a day if he wanted. I role play, let him tie me up, handcuff me, gag me, whatever he pleases as long as it is not past my hard limits. I know sometimes he is going to masturbate if I am not home and he is in the mood (that don't bother me at all) but what I don't understand is if I am home why would he rather do it instead of having sex?