Lasting long in bed or Having short relationships
Dr. Kerner,
Your story about your girl leaving is confronting to me and I want to avoid it from happening to me, any insight would be very appreciated.
How many kegels should be done per session, day, week? I usually do sets of 10 and do 3 sets in the day at best. I am about to move in with my girlfriend, and we are going to be having a lot more sex. I have ways of lasting longer but they are unsustainable. I am able to last longer than her in bed right now and our sex life is great, absolutely amazing. However, I really need to get my penis is shape! I think this is probably necessary for me to achieve, to be able to be with my girlfriend long term. I am willing to put in the work, even if it is a lot. I am physically fit but maybe my PC muscle is just really weak. Can the muscle be worked out everyday? What is the most I can work out my PC muscle? Is there anything besides kegels that I can do?
-Mr. I think I can, I think I can...!
You can do as many kegels a day as you'd like. I think that all of the pressure you're putting on yourself to get your penis in shape might end up hurting you more than helping you. As far as penis performance is concerned, one of the biggest buzzkills is anxiety! By putting all this pressure on yourself, all the kegels in the world won't help.
Don't get me wrong, kegels are great. And you should keep going with them (do as many as you want...the muscle can be worked out every day). Just try to get rid of some of the pressure you're putting on yourself and enjoy this absolutely amazing sex you're having!
You may find that initially you have more sex, but then it evens out to a more average number. Please remember that good sex for her may be orgasming without your penis, meaning you can bring her to orgasm with your hands or mouth. Having a vibrator handy for the moments you want to pleasure her but want to do something different is also an option. Not only are you putting too much pressure on yourself you are putting too much pressure on your penis. Finally, sometimes women or their partners, mistake wanting affection or attention for wanting sex. Keep lines of communication with her open.