Sexual Libido and Partner incompatibility (as a woman)
My boyfriend and I have a very committed relationship. We are both young, and he has some unconfirmed health issues that could cause a drop in libido. He's also much more sexually experienced than I am (more partners), but I am not unexperienced at all. However, he does not have the libido that I do. If I don't have sex at least once every couple of days, I start to become emotionally unbalanced. For instance: after not having sex for two days (granted this is after a week of having it at least once, if not more, a day), I feel like crying for no reason. He seems to be able to go for weeks if not months without. Also, he rarely initiates sexual activity (maybe once or twice every few months), leaving me feeling unwanted and often frustrated. Is there any advice you have to remedy or improve the situation?
What are these health issues? There are certainly some health issues that contribute to low sexual desire. And if one of his health issues is contributing to this, it is important for you to know so that you aren't left feeling unwanted and frustrated. I wonder if perhaps your emotional ups and downs are caused by the frustration you express with always having to initiate, and not so much with the lack of sex in itself. It would be really important to find out what these health issues are. There are a lot of solutions out there in changing medications etc. that can decrease the extent to which medical conditions impact desire. Also, have you talked to him about this? If he sees you crying for "no reason" regularly and doesn't really know why, that could be really frustrating for him as well. So it would be ideal for you to talk to him about it and let him know you'd like him to initiate more often. Hopefully he can meet you in the middle (after the medical issues are addressed).
Kristen's points are very important to consider. Communication is crucial in order to eliminate and prevent any misunderstandings.
There is another thing that comes to mind with your question. Certainly, every couple finds their balance of frequency for having sex, usually 1-3x/wk. But if you are looking to sex as a way of validating feeling loved, attractive, or desired, then you will have a big blow to your emotions if you don't get sex. That is a very common pitfall that needs to be addressed.