hard to reach an orgasm
hi i'm 19 years old and i'm having a real tough time. in the beginning of my sexual relationship it came so easily but lately it is not working out. my husband tries everything but most of the tines it takes a long time to reach an orgasm and many times i don't reach it at all. do you have any ides or solutions to help me?
It sounds like you are making it a mission. That is not a very erotic thought and will take you far from your orgasm. Focus on what excites you and let yourself relax.
Did you start on the pill or any other medications? Are you drinking or using drugs? All of these are things to consider that could affect your ability to orgasm.
It may not be just you? Given the abundance of porn available these days and the absolute silliness that goes on in most X rated material, it's no wonder men don't know how to make love any more. A lot of guys think that pounding away is what women want. Do yourself and your hubby a big favor and TALK. Tell him what feels good to you, slow things down and let him know when he does something that really turns you on. Talk, laugh, tease and enjoy each other. It's intimacy with physicality and varying the degree or each at different times, that makes sex fun. But you have to TALK to each other.