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Porn Discussion

By Paul on Feb 20, 2012 at 11:15 AM

I was struck by Kristen Mark's comment in another thread that she is "pro-porn".



I am interested in hearing people's opinions on porn. I suppose at some level I'm trying to justify my attraction to it while at the same time feeling like I'm 'supposed' to be ashamed of it.



Over the years I've watched a great deal of porn. Quite frankly the vast majority of it was lame. I find myself fast forwarding through much of it, particularly in this age of free internet porn, trying to find something good. What's good to me is sex that is passionate. I want the participants to be convincing that they are really turned by one another and truly enjoying the act.



My questions are what do others consider to be good porn? Is there porn that is negative that is not healthy for anybody to watch or is that only a matter of personal preference? Are there ways to use porn that is healthier than others or by contrast ways that people use porn that is unhealthy?



Please share your opinions.

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Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT | Feb 21, 2012 at 3:45 PM | Reply | Report

On the whole, I look at porn as a form of erotic stimuli -- because so much of it is free, you're right that the quality often leaves much to be desired. But I find that it also allows individuals and couples to "channel-surf" different themes and find material that suits their fancy. Just as everyone is capable of enjoying different types of tv shows, I think everyone has the capacity to enjoy different types of porn, and I don't think it necessarily says much about one's core erotic template -- someone might enjoy passionate heterosexual porn one day, and gay porn another day. Or perhaps one is in the mood for bondage. Like any form of entertainment, almost all porn is scripted in terms of theme, and there to be enjoyed. Sure, it can be over-enjoyed. And porn is a problem when it diminishes libido and sexual desire for a partner. Unless of course, one's partner has a diminished libido and porn helps one to adjust to a partner who wants sex less often.

58doinggreat | Feb 22, 2012 at 11:52 AM | Reply | Report

Unhealthy porn is based on coercion, with abuse or a threat of actual violence to the women (not scripted). Linda Lovelace experienced this evil side of the industry. Healthy porn (to me) includes smiles, laughter in some form, and is often found in amateur porn. After all, sex, in its healthiest form, is the highest form of adult play.

Sexcamshow | May 10, 2017 at 4:52 PM | Reply | Report

There is nothing to be ashamed porn. It indeed has many facets (pos/neg), but at the end of the day it's the most natural thing in the world "plain sex". From porn movies and various fetish, all back to sex cams it's just another filter to fulfill our sexual desires.

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