Sex life suffering, Fiance says he "has no fantasies"
I posted earlier about my body issues being a new mom. Another issue is our sex life is hurting and I want to spice it up and be passionate for each other again. It isn't a lack of sex drive (or lack of sex) that is the problem. Sex has just become boring and mundane. I want to act out fantasies but my s/o gets frustrated and says "I don't know what my fantasies are! I have none really except sleeping with you!" I ask him what porn he likes and he says he doesn't know, it is just the randomness of the videos he likes. I am trying to explore my fantasies with him, but I want to turn him on like crazy (my number 1 fantasy.)It is hard to act out my fantasies if I feel like they are turning him off or he isn't in to it. How can we spice it up if he doesn't know what turns him on? He is 9 years older than me ( he is 32 years old and had many sexual partners.) I think this would help with my body issues/our relationship.