Boy do I need advice!
No sex for at least 7 years....mid-60s aged female. My partner and I took our relationshp to the next level after several months of dating and intercourse was extremely painful! We used a lot of lubrication but it was still painful. I am not on hormones. Should I be to maybe loosen things up a bit? It was like being a virgin again. We had intercourse twice in a 12 hour period and it was painful both times! I know being tight is a plus but this was ridiculous!
Breakout2012
My partner turns 60 this year. With her lubrication is not enough. She has to be fully aroused too. I'm not a doctor but my guess is she needs for the tissues to be warmed up before penetration. Just like a sudden movement of a muscle that is not warmed up can cause pain (particularly as we get older) sudden penetration of a vagina will also cause pain.
I think the solution is lots of foreplay then very slow and gentle penetration until things are warmed up and the pain goes away.
@breakout2012 - Unfortunately, the pain that you are probably experiencing is not the same as when you were a virgin. Lack of hormones due to menopause can very quickly change the tissue of the vaginal mucosa (inside) and result in a burning sensation of pain with penetration. If you have not been on hormone replacement, and it has been more than 5-10 yrs since menopause, systemic hormones (pills, patches or gels) may not be recommended at this time. There are some local hormones you can use, however, that help - estrogen pills inserted into the vagina 2x/wk, or a ring that is inserted around your cervix like a diaphragm that releases estrogen into the vagina. These can be of tremendous help. There is also a product called Replens that help re-moisturize the vaginal tissues when used regularly (works, but probably not as good as hormones). Last but not least - LUBE. Don't just use water-based, it's time to go for the silicone. Start off slow and build up as you feel better.