Counselling for mismatched desire
My man and I went to counselling for the first time yesterday. Since it is the #1 recommendation on this site, I thought I'd tell you how it went, and also ask one question:
Has anyone ever had a significant improvement in mismatched desire? I want to hear your stories so that I know it can happen :)
I made the appointment because I am really struggling to deal with lack of sex and sexual feeling. We have sex a couple of times a month. We're both healthy and under 30, and he's had hormone tests indicating normal range. I have previously been to a counsellor by myself to help me deal with the incredibly strong feelings I have about this. Eventually I told him I was really struggling, and he agreed to counselling together.
Homework for first two weeks is to NOT have sex, and to practice some mindfulness techniques. While not having to wonder/try is a bit of mental relief, I am having trouble with natural affection, since I know what I want is not allowed. Stay tuned for updates...