When does bad sex become a deal-breaker?
I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and our sex life has been dull to say the least. We are both in our early twenties, but usually have sex only once every two months. I realized I really had no desire to have sex. As students, our studies would often get in the way. To make matters worse, I always found that after a long period of time sex would become painful for me. He tried going down on me a few times, but it did nothing to "ease" me into pain-free sex because I would often become too numb, feel guilty, and tell him I was ready anyway. I eventually realized this was a huge problem that would not go away on its own, so I decided to buy "She Comes First" for us in the hopes that it could get our sex life back on track (and I would, hopefully, be able to enjoy and look forward to sex.) When I gave it to him, I told him how important it was that he read it. He never did. I am extremely hurt. Our relationship is already on the rocks - is this worth ending it over?