24 year old man no sex drive?
I'm worried about my boyfriends insecurities and lack of sex drive. We are under some stress trying to make ends meet financially and he takes it upon himself feeling like he should be the provider. I've expressed working together doesn't bother me, but it doesn't seem to help. He is also very insecure with himself. He constantly tells me what great shape he used to be in and how he used to look. For the record he is an extremely good looking guy and is in no way out of shape, he just isn't as fit as he used to be. I tell him everyday how sexy I think he is, because I do. I would say 80% of the time I almost feel like I'm forcing him to have sex. I have a high sex drive, I'm 23 I should. I feel like we should be doing it every chance we get. But it's more like 3 times a week if I'm lucky. I know some may be thinking in their heads they only get it 3 times a year. Well we are young and SHOULD be doing it all the time. I'm lost, what more can I do to get him to feel good about himself?
It is difficult to know how he feels from this question - does he think there is a problem with his level of desire? Does he feel he is being 'forced' to have sex 3 times per week? How much does he define his masculinity by his ability to make money? Has this changed in his life or just with this relationship?
These questions and more would be important to explore to really understand where to start. If there is a lot of stress for him to provide, that can severely interfere with desire and arousal because it works directly against the sexual arousal response.
Thank you. It is difficult to know how he feels considering the last thing I want to do is make him feel any more insecure. I guess I just wish there was an easy way to find out how to make him feel better, without making him feel worse.