Im not lasting long enough, tempted to see doctor but rather not
Hi
Im 24 years old and probably ruined my own sex life from my teenage years when I used to probably masturbate too much, and always rush it trying to cum within minutes or even a minute!
Ive read several books and articles and they all recommend the same sort of things..
So what I do with my girl now is, after the hugs and kisses.. ill start with rubbing her clit until she orgasms, then I will sex with her, with her on top of me.
Honestly I have never actually timed it so I am guessing here, but I reckon I can last maybe a whole minute of constant thrusting before I have to stop.....
Yeah, Ive been using the stop-start technique but to be fair its not that great, sure it lets us last a little longer but its not great sex. I duno how she feels, but it even annoys me. I just wanna keep thrusting and thrusting and be loving it but I cant.
When I stop just before that feeling, I wait about 10 seconds and then start again, but then that feeling is always there, so I duno what to do
Good that you try to take care of her first.
So you tried other stuff? Desensitizing creams. Try take care of yourself the morning of the day/night you expect to have sex. During sex, try thinking of something else for a while - something boring, tedious, or even something unpleasant if needed to stop you from climaxing.
Have you checked out my guide to overcoming premature ejaculation on this site? There are many resources on this site. To the previous point, you might want to check out a numbing spray called promescent that is FDA approved and has met with promising results. It will diminish penile sensitivity without causing your partner to experience numbness, which is sometimes the issue with numbing agents.
Some tips which helped me:
1.Prolonging the time before climax during masturbation. It can be trained sometimes.
2.More frequent ejaculation on a regular basis, e.g. after ejaculating every day with my partner (not just during intercourse, but handjobs and blowjobs as well), helped me to last much longer during any sexual activity with a partner
3.Condoms decrease sensitivity to me, too (but when it results in losing erections, it is not so welcome, of course)
4.Trying to find a position during intercourse which helps you last longer.
But above all, more frequent ejaculation on a regular basis can do the trick over the time. If possible, after the first ejaculation, try to continue with sexual activity and if a new errection appears, it can last longer. Repeat the next day.