I'm out of ideas
I'M a 5'8" hispanic lean 200 lb man and all my wife's friends think I'm cute. I absolutely love giving my wife oral sex and I don't even mind if she doesn't want to return the favor. There is not many things I wouldn't do to fulfill her every sexual desire. One time I gave her 5 orgasms in a row.
So whats the problem? 1 We only have sex once or twice a month 2 She won't let me perform oral sex on her anymore. She won't even let me use my saliva as lubricant because she says it grosses her out? 3 She refuses to tell me her fantasies even though I have assured her she could not offend me no matter what it is. 4 She will only do it missionary position and won't experiment with other positions. 5 Porn is not an option. If she even suspects that Ive looked at pornography she starts sobbing and no luck with toys. 6 she wont let me finger her. I have tried to nurture and liberate her sexuality as much as I can but have failed at every attempt. What do I do now?
It's so interesting that you start by relating it to how attractive other women think that you are - as if your wife's difficulties stem out of a lack of attraction to you. From what you describe, her difficulties with sex stem from her own discomfort with sex - disgust of bodily fluids, embarrassed by her fantasies, perhaps thinking that sex is "dirty" and to be avoided whenever possible. Of course, this is speculation based off of your description.
How long have you been together? How long has this been going on? Does she think there are any problems with your sex life or anything she would like to change? Usually, you won't get much participation unless she really wants things to change. It also sounds like she may feel threatened by porn if the thought of you looking at it makes her cry. How does she feel about your sex life?