Wife Does Not Like Sex
My wife and I have been married 12 years now. Over those 12 years we have had sex 20-25 times. My wife says all the time, 'it's not you, I just simply do not want or like sex'. It is hard to think it is not me, my esteem has taken a hit. The issue is I cant even talk to her, she gets angry when I try to. I have tried texting her, writing her but cant get her to open up. She refuses to seek help. The depression and resentment I feel is growing, but I have no recourse. I do not want to separate, financially divorcing would leave me without anything. I work hard to support her and my children, I help out tons around the house. I cant tell you the last time we have hugged. Over the 12 years, twice we have gone 2 yrs w/o anything. Other friends of hers have talked to her, she shuts them down too. I am not sure how much more I can keep these feelings hidden. This would not be a problem if I did not love her so much and or have such a attraction to her, but I do. What do I do?