Orgasms less pleasurable?
Hello, I have a quick question that I was hoping to get an answer to. Anyways, I'm a 26yr old guy, and I have noticed over the past few years that my orgasms have changed pretty drastically. A few years ago, when I would orgasm, I would need lots of stimulation throughout the orgasm for them to feel good. My orgasms felt a lot better back then too! For whatever reason, over time my orgasms started becoming much less pleasurable and my preferences during orgasm changing.
Nowadays, I find that if I am stimulated at all during orgasm, it basically ruins the orgasm. The only technique I have found that still allows me to have decent orgasms is to be stimulated until just before orgasm, and then have nothing touching my penis during the ejaculation itself. These orgasms still feel good, but are not nearly as pleasurable as the ones I used to have.
So do you have any ideas as to what may have caused this change? Or any suggestions of how to get my orgasms "back to normal"? Thanks!
I'm 57 and have a very active sexuall relationship with wife for 35+ years. Although my desire hasn't changed the feelings have. Can you wear it out? I remember how orgasm w/ ejaculation felt when I was younger, it felt so much better. Are there any remedies to regain the way it use to feel? Any magic pills or diets?
Can you just clarify a bit. So basically during sex, would your preference to be to pull out and have nothing touching your penis during intercourse. And the same with oral/manual stimulation to orgasm? What are your orgasms like when you masturbate and what's your optimal process for masturbating -- do you not stimulate yourself through orgasm but rather until orgasm?
I have to wonder about your overall level of health and fitness. My wife and I have been together for the last 11 years and I have noticed that the sensation and intensity of my orgasms change with my how in or out of shape I have been at different times. It seems that the better my body feels the better my orgasms feel. I am also a nurse and I have to ask do you have any underlying health problems that might effect sensation or blood flow such as diabetes or hypertension. That's all I have hope it helps.
Thanks for the responses. Yeah that is right...during sex/oral I pull out when the orgasm starts, and during masturbation I just stimulate until the start of orgasm then stop. I find that during sex the tip is much too sensitive to keep going and it feels better if there is no pressure on it. And during masturbation I *can* continue to stimulate the shaft during the orgasm, but when I do the orgasm just lacks any intensity and doesn't feel like it used to (as I mentioned in my post I used to prefer to have the shaft stimulated during orgasm and it made the orgasms feel amazing). My orgasms now are pretty much the same regardless of how they're brought about...they still feel good but probably only half as good as they used to.
And as for my health, I'm no Olympic athlete but I am in decent shape and have a completely clean bill of health. I run 4 miles almost daily and eat a pretty healthy diet, so I'm certainly not a couch potato.
Maybe you should try gradually introducing stimulation to the head of your penis instead of refraining. I understand that the sensations may be intense, but they're not painful, correct, just intense? It makes sense that the quality of your orgasms would be diminished without stimulation of the glans, so I think I would suggest gradually introducing manual stimulation of the head. Again, make it a gradual introduction --
Ok great, thanks for the advice. I will give it a shot and see how it goes. I tried it a few times before but it was an extremely uncomfortable feeling...I probably didn't do it gradually enough though.