Sex After Infidelty
My husband had an eight-month affair that I discovered three years ago. At first, he was belligerent about it and said many hurtful things, particularly about how great his mistress was in bed and that I didn't measure up. We decided to work on our marriage and with some therapy he has become contrite and worked very hard to make amends. However, he did a lot of emotional damage that I still have not overcome entirely. He thinks it's ben long enough and that I should be over it. I don't dwell on it but it still causes me pain to think about that time. In any event our sex life seems fine but I have an overriding feeling of inadequacy and I don't even want to try anymore. He says he doesn't think about her and he just said those things to be mean. I feel like I'm just being cajoled and he's just saying those things to make me feel better. How can I get my confidence back?