Toys for Practicing cunnilingus w/o partner
I usually garner strange looks in forums when posting this, but what the hey.
I was wondering if someone could recommend either a good toy or some other way of practicing cunnilingus when your partner is not there.. or for just practicing general technique before the big day.
One product I found interesting for building up the strength of the tongue for cunnilingus is called the "Oral Sex Trainer" which is modeled after speech therapy toys to strengthen the motor muscles of the mouth. Was wondering if anyone had anything else in mind? Or maybe I should look deeper into the speech therapy toys some more.lol
I'm certainly not here to give you a strange look - good for you for wanting to brush up on technique for your partner before "the big day".
However, good cunnilingus can be had without any sort of speech therapy. There are a lot of different techniques that people throw around (e.g., spelling out the alphabet with your tongue). However, I think the best tactic is to go with what your partner reacts positively to. And if you aren't sure (or have a silent partner), then it never hurts to ask!
If that doesn't work for your relationship dynamic, I understand, and there are some wonderful resources out there for you. Here is our ebook on the topic. Here is our free reference on the topic. And here is a great video to check out.
Sounds like you've posted this topic in other forums before? My opinion is that trying to "practice" cunnilingus on a toy is tantamount to using chewing gum to practice chewing your food - in other words, not necessary. First, practicing on a toy will not give you any idea if your technique is pleasing to a partner, and could even be detrimental if you develop a technique that your future partner ends up hating (kind of like learning something wrong and then having to relearn it, which can be more difficult). One of the biggest errors people make when giving cunnilingus is going to rough, with too much pressure, or too fast. Instead, it is a sensual activity that requires real-time feedback for response so as to be truly enjoyable. Give up the toy and go for the girl!
Thanks, Madeleine.
And thank you Kristin, I went out and bought everything you suggested, including Mr. Kerner's book on Kindle edition. Very satisfied.
Thanks again, guys.
For a male perspective you don't need toys. And while a little reading never hurts, just ask what she likes. I feel that the goal of going down is to provide your partner pleasure. And there is no one who can better tell you how to pleasure your partner than she can. The most useful oral skills I have ever learned have come from a partner telling me "I really like it when you ______". Have fun.