I have been married to my husband for 30 years. We are both 60 years old. For the last 20 years, my sex drive has been much higher than my husband's. Last year, he informed me that he no longer has any desire for sex and, therefore, it will no longer be a part of our marriage. He says he loves me but just doesn't want to have sex with anyone anymore. He thinks that his lack of desire is due to stress at work and his concern about our children. He is healthy and doesn't take any medications. He also refuses to go to a doctor to find out what the problem might be, or to see a sex and/or marital therapist. Meanwhile, I think about sex almost every hour and am very frustrated. I have lots of toys but I need more. Is it okay for me to secretly seek sexual pleasure from another man if it is strictly for physical release? I just don't think I can go the rest of my life without sex!