Wife not really interestedHi All,
I've been together with my wife since we were kids so have only had sex with each other. Sex has always been fine from my perspective and my wife is happy enough to do it. Though I've always had a odd feeling, like she is doing it as a favour to me.
For many years I thought that this was the norm for men and womens attitude to sex. The thing is that as I've gotten older I've realised that most other couples do way more 'cool' stuff in bed. My wife doesn't really ever even do oral sex, and when she has, only for about 2 minutes.
She never instigates sex, and just never seems to desire me like I would hope.
I always make sure she has at least two orgasms before I even think of having mine. I always ask her what she might like and I go down on her when she will let me.
I'm just asking if im being unreasonable wanting more (sex/to be desired).
Even if I spell all this out to her, I can't force her to desire me, even though I work out at the gym/run/take care of my appearance.