losing interesti am 44, female, have always loved sex - EXCEPT since about the age of 19 find i dont orgasm easily (or at all) with others. i still enjoy the pleasure and closeness but can't climax unless i am doing it for myself. i was only able to easily climax with my first lover at age 15. i tend to fake it - which i know is stupid - but my partners need that affirmation and generally i really cant manage the real deal with them. i often start to feel disconnected from the whole process after foreplay is over - as i know there is no hope for me. and yet i still gain pleasure so its never been a big issue. i still want sex - and fairly often - in a relationship - but more as a bonding thing.
i am now with a long-term partner with his own sexual issues - a very limited repertoire and delayed ejaculation + not very sexual at all.
i have reached a point where i feel between the 2 of us things are so complex that i am losing interest in sex completely.
how do i start repairing this mess?