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  • CE commented on Cyclical libido swings

    It's true that sometimes when you don't think you are in the mood, sex turns out great. I opt for a quickie when I'm don't...
  • Ubuntu1 commented on Expert opinion on fetishes

    I've just never known how to bring this up with a potential partner. I've hidden this for something like 15 years and have never had...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Is there a way to remove a fetish?

    You're right that it's unlikely you'll be able to "remove" a fetish. What most people with fetishes do is find ways of working *with* them....
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Senior Sex issues

    I see that you asked the ejaculating during oral sex question in another thread so I'll answer that there. As for the going down on...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Wife fantasizes of other men during sex

    Yes, it's normal for people to occasionally fantasize about people who aren't in the room when they're having sex. That's quite common. It's possible that's...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Sex

    Have you talked to your wife about the kind of sex she likes and the kind of sex you like? It's very natural and normal...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Oral Sex Issue

    I don't have a specific statistic for you, but it is not uncommon for men to enjoy oral sex, but not ejaculate from it -...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on First time disappointing sex new partner

    It sounds like he's just not a very considerate lover. You clearly articulated beforehand what your needs and wants were. You know your body well....
  • CE commented on Is there a way to remove a fetish?

    Your fetish isn't unhealthy and probably not uncommon. Use it to enhance your arousal during intercourse....
  • CE commented on Wife fantasizes of other men during sex

    It's normal for me. It doesn't mean I love my husband any less. There's just something exciting about it....
  • CE commented on Sex

    Preferences and desire change for many reasons. You'll have to ask your wife what's changed for her. Does she know that sex for you is...
  • CE commented on First time disappointing sex new partner

    It could have been the awkwardness of the first time, but from what you describe, he sounds selfish. If you want to give him another...
  • roadstar commented on Senior Sex issues

    My wife and I are 60, married for 39 years. For us, oral was just a warm up for intercourse. I always wanted to orgasm...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on 24 and need some advice

    I can see why this would be distressing for you. Even with her understanding, I can see why you'd want more choice and control over...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on First time prep/practice

    There's no real way to get an exact measure on those things. How long you last will have to do with the type of stimulation,...
  • Sahana commented on First time disappointing sex new partner

    During the your next session, slowly let him know about first time experience.. See if takes an effort in satisfying you this time. If not,...
  • CE commented on Fantasy

    Fantasies are unique to each person. Your question is like asking what men fantasize about. It depends on the man....
  • CoJoN commented on frequency of sex

    I have found myself in a somewhat similar situation, except for a few (perhaps minor) details: My partner and I are not married (although we...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Cunninlingus

    Even if a person is an "expert" at cunnilingus, not all people enjoy it. It may be that this is just not a sexual act...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Its been a more than year since my husband and i had sex help!

    That sounds like a very upsetting situation for you. Have you and your husband talked about what's changed in the last year? Has anything gone...
  • Mary Brown commented on Sex Desire in mid 30s

    I have had varying drive over the years, depending on the partner....
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on womens legs

    That's somewhat atypical, but certainly not unheard of. Many people find women's legs very sexy....
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on burning vagina

    What a mystery! Could it be related to a personal care product that he's using? Some people are SUPER sensitive to the residue from shower...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Sex issues in marriage

    Do you talk about sex with her? Do you have conversations about what kind of sex she DOES want to have? It sounds like the...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Sex

    I imagine this was either a strange light reflection, or the result of the the wetness making the mattress pattern show up through the white...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Perminent ED

    The first thing I'd recommend is to believe your wife when she tells you she is OK with vibrators and oral sex. Not believing her...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on masterbation

    If she's already watching you masturbate, it sounds like she's probably pretty open to the topic. Ask her if it would feel sexy to her...
  • tellyalater22 commented on Our Cheating Hearts

    I got into a mess when I was younger. I thought that having sex with a man that I'll refer to as mynjguy would boost...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on How Much Sex in a LDR?

    It doesn't sound like you're being dramatic - it sounds like you're a bit confused about what's "normal" and you're having a bit of trouble...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Girlfriend is a selfish lover

    Do you have a specific question about your situation?...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Threesome while in a great relationship

    It sounds like he seriously violated both you and your friend's boundaries and agreements. That's more than being stubborn - that's disrespectful and trust-breaking. Moving...
  • jess commented on burning vagina

    His shower gel may be the problem. We use the same laundry detergent as we live together but I never thought about his shower gel....
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on mynjguy - my career - my guilt

    It sounds like you have a lot of unprocessed feelings about what happened. My advice would be to process them with someone other than your...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on I can't go on top even if I want to

    My first thought is, are you sufficiently turned on when you're trying to get his penis inside you? Often when the vagina is tight, it's...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Giving fellatio

    I don't have enough information to tell you whether it's safe or not. Is he distressed by this reaction? Are the effects long lasting?...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Anxiety and dating

    I can see why this experience would be a bit upsetting for you since it differed from your past experiences. I didn't find a specific...
  • joe commented on womens legs

    thank you for your response. i went to a catholic school.... you know plaid skirts.my wife is comfortable with my fetish. she will even point...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Urination during Climax

    It's much more likely that you have started ejaculating. The fluid that makes up female ejaculation comes out of the urethra just as urine does...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on trouble reaching orgasm

    I wouldn't say you're "addicted" (vibrators are not heroin or alcohol) - I would say you're "accustomed." Vibrators are highly efficient tools for producing orgasms....
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Boyfriend has small penis

    I can see why this is awkward for you. You really enjoy penetrative sex and this new guy's a bit small for you. First of...
  • CE commented on Urination during Climax

    During the rare instances when I ejaculate, I feel like I'm peeing. The consistency is different than urine. The next time you ejaculate, look at...
  • CE commented on trouble reaching orgasm

    I fell into the accustomed category for years. I figured why try anything else if that was a sure thing? When I tried to have...
  • Anon commented on trouble reaching orgasm

    I guess its just that now that I'm older, I realized my entire developmental period revolved around a vibrator, and I never really learned how...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on starting to loose control

    It sounds extremely understandable that after retiring from your stressful job and having some decompressing experiences, your sex drive would enhance. It's possible that in...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Messed up gay-str8 affair

    It sounds like you already know what you need to do - end your sexual relationship with this man. I know that would be super...
  • CE commented on trouble reaching orgasm

    You have nothing to be ashamed about. It's never too late to learn!...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on I Need Help With My Performance... What Should I Do Differently?

    The main thing to do would be to spend far more time on foreplay. The vagina needs time to "tent" - the physiological process of...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Why are my orgasms so weak?

    Has anything significant changed in your health since this change has happened with you orgasms? Sometimes certain medications, like some antidepressants, can have this effect...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Tips for our sharing fantasy

    It sounds like she's really open to talking about and exploring this fantasy with you. Is your issue that you're feeling conflicted that you snooped...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Am I physically felling pleasure and it is just not registering?

    I can see why this is frustrating for you. It's a bit unusual, but certainly not unheard of. Here's a few resources for you. There'a...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on handjobs

    Did you have a specific question we can help you with?...
  • scinty commented on starting to loose control

    You are very observant. Some more background – I am an only child, my mother was very much an old school disciplinarian and my father...
  • CE commented on Tips for our sharing fantasy

    Fantasy and reality are different. Has your wife ever said it's something she wants to try? I would ask her that before you tell her...
  • CE commented on Am I physically felling pleasure and it is just not registering?

    I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 44. I think my biggest problem over the years was expecting it to happen and trying...
  • CE commented on I Need Help With My Performance... What Should I Do Differently?

    Sex isn't a marathon and shouldn't always be fast and hard. It shouldn't always be constant thrusting either. If you're just thrusting away that may...
  • JeffKells commented on Going on top

    In order for you to get off while on top, it's more of a rubbing motion. Back and forth motion, instead of in and out....
  • JeffKells commented on Boyfriend has small penis

    I second what Kate is saying... it's tough for the poor guy, but if it's not going to work for you, it's not. You can,...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Sex drive

    Career problems and the stress that can come with them can certainly affect sex drive. Many people experience sexual challenges after facing career-related stress. My...
  • joe commented on handjobs

    i guess i like handjobs better than sex at this point in my life . i am quite endowed and she is amazed at the...
  • Kevin commented on Tips for our sharing fantasy

    I just want 100% certainty that she really wants this too. Her fantasy is to avoid all emotional connections with the other guy, but just...
  • sarahb commented on What is the best way for a woman to introduce a sex toy

    Hi, I'm confused about the question. Introduce a sex toy to whom? and for whom? I think the real answer varies on whether you are...
  • sarahb commented on handjobs

    Say two hail marys, and you will be fine in the morning. Just kidding. Since there is not a question, maybe you are just looking...
  • sarahb commented on Boyfriend has small penis

    Ummmm ... how about adding a bullet vibrator to your sex. That way he gets intercourse, and you get an orgasm from the vibrator. Or...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Female orgasm an refusal of cunnilingus

    You should never insist on doing anything to her sexually. If she doesn't like cunnilingus, respect her preferences. Instead, ask her what she DOES want...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Casual sex in university

    Thanks for your question. It sounds like you're on the right track for having some positive casual sex encounters. While I think it's awesome that...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on I don't want to degrade myself anymore

    It's quite common for people to find things a turn on that they don't want to do in real life, but it sounds like you're...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Turned on by boyfriend with other women...

    It is very common for people to have desires change and emerge over time. Desires and fantasies are not static - they can show up...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Male sex drive

    It sounds like his sex drive is on the high end of normal, but certainly not atypical. But whether or not it's normal doesn't sound...
  • joe commented on handjobs

    thank you all!will check out web site....
  • Wolfhr commented on Why do I fantasize about my wife with another man?

    I too have the same fantacy but we only kept on talking about this fantacyonly during sex one day i thought to move one step...
  • sarahb commented on Turned on by boyfriend with other women...

    I think the previous answer is pretty enlightening. You need to figure out whether this is ONLY a fantasy or something you want to become...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on losing interest

    I'd highly recommend seeking some therapy from a qualified sex therapist. They could help you and your partner unpack the layers of what's going on...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Frigid liar . . .

    I responded to your earlier question with some similar advice: I think you'd get a lot out of some sessions with a qualified sex therapist....
  • justme commented on losing interest

    Thank you...
  • justme commented on Frigid liar . . .

    thank you...
  • Kevin commented on Tips for our sharing fantasy

    Yes, my wife told me that she fantasizes about it every week. She told me that she would love to try it, but that any...
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    Kate McCombs, MPH commented on Boyfriend checking out other things..

    I wonder if it's truly insecurity or if it's actually just variety he's seeking. Many people also don't want to engage in their kinkier fantasies...
  • CE commented on Tips for our sharing fantasy

    It sounds like you both want it. Good luck and I hope it's everything you imagine....
  • Kevin commented on Turned on by boyfriend with other women...

    If this is something you really want, and he wants it too, you should discuss this with your BF and tell him if you want...
  • Kevin commented on Boyfriend has small penis

    A 3 inch penis to a 9 inch penis? That's a huge difference. Given how much you loved the length and width of your ex,...