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• Posted Gay Couples: out but not about to Sex on the Brain
  Between celebratory parades for Pride Month and increased calls for marriage equality, it would seem that, for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered community, things are indeed getting better.But what happens if you're in relationship with a partner who just...
• Commented on Disinterest
  Have you tried sharing fantasies with her? The mind is such an important part of arousal, and simply sharing a sexy fantasy about her verbally might start to expand the horizons of your sex life. Next time you're fooling around...
• Commented on dryness of vagina
  Stick with the lubricant. You probably need to use more -- water-based lubes, which are the safest and most popular -- dehydrate quickly, so you'll need to apply more of it. Also, if you're only applying to your penis, your...
• Commented on Tight or Loose ?
  Based on age and having kids, it would be natural for their to be some fatigue of the vaginal muscles, and men and women are subject to sexual changes over the life-cycle. All just part of getting older, but that...
• Commented on Practically a virgin and scared to be otherwise
  I think you should go see a therapist about your intimacy issues and anxieties? What is it that made you so nervous during that last experience? Were you afraid you would not be able to satisfy her? What was going...
• Commented on My boyfriend hasn't made love to me in 9 months
  You need to go see a couple's therapist to get at the heart of what's going on? Is he depressed? Is he no longer sexually attracted to you? Is he over-masturbating to porn? Is there something else going on? It...
• Commented on How can I satisfy her so that she'll naturally want the wilder kinkier sex I crave
  I don't think you should encourage her to engage in more adventurous sex if you think it's going to make her uncomfortable and be a cause of anxiety. In terms of having an orgasm, can she masturbate to orgasm? Have...
• Commented on I am having a hard time enjoying sex
  It sounds like your relationship feelings are naturally getting in the way of forming a genuine intimate connection with your husband. Why can't you talk to him? Do you feel like you need couples counseling?...
• Posted The truth about sex supplements to Sex on the Brain
  Conventional wisdom tells us that natural remedies are simply gentler alternatives to prescription drugs like Viagra and Cialis, right?Not so fast, say experts. Not only are many dietary supplements marketed for erectile dysfunction and other male sexual problems ineffective, they...
• Commented on I cant cum
  What's different about when you're using a vibrator? Are you more relaxed, less anxious? Are you able to provide yourself with more direct clitoral stimulation? Are you able to focus more on your own pleasure?...
• Commented on Confused about whether I have PE.
  I think you're realization that you may be placing too much emphasis on intercourse is a good one, and could be a powerful clue to the anxiety you're experiencing. Perhaps try sensate focus exercises -- where you take intercourse off...
• Posted The State of the Hookup to Sex on the Brain
  For many young adults, college is a rite of passage, filled with experiences ranging from parties to all-night cram sessions to that first serious relationship.Yet romance may be getting short shrift these days, replaced instead with quick "hookups" devoid of...
• Commented on BF wants to go to a sex party/orgy
  All of your questions are very legitimate, and you should discuss all of these with him. If you're even going to consider doing this together, then you need to do so as a team and it really needs to be...
• Commented on Sex$drugs
  Having sex when you're sober is very different than sex under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Alcohol and drugs often inhibit arousal, so it's not surprising that you may be experiencing premature ejaculation, especially if you have anxiety around...
• Commented on PE
  If you read my book on overcoming premature ejaculation, most of the information is in there, but there's a new over the counter medication that you might want to try called Promescent. It's FDA-approved and is basically a spray that...
• Commented on I am having a hard time enjoying sex
  It sounds like your issue is more related to overall desire and that you're not very interested is sex, so the sex you're having is more of a chore. Both birth control and anti-depressants can inhibit desire and sexual arousal,...
• Commented on pregnancy
  It's hard to know about the risk, but if he didn't ejaculate inside you, it's probably a very low risk. It really depends if he ejaculated inside you, and if you're ovulating. Women generally ovulate about halfway through their menstrual...
• Commented on What am I doing wrong?
  Stay focused on your goals, and stick to the guys you're attracted to....
• Commented on Confused about whether I have PE.
  This is a new problem? What's changed since the issue began to manifest? Do you have more anxiety during sex? Is there a particular position or type of foreplay that leads to early ejaculation? Does it vary depending upon masturbation?...
• Commented on Doesn't Always Come
  If he's masturbating a lot, he may have developed an "idiosyncratic masturbatory style" which means that he's gotten himself used to a type of friction and pressure that is not easily replicated during intercourse. Do you think that could be...
• Commented on Oral sex in the dark
  Start in the dark, just use your other senses. Better to make her feel comfortable and relaxed, and then gradually work through her inhibitions. Not to be silly, but think of Luke Skywalker in the first Star Wars movie when...
• Commented on Do sex toys really spice up a relationship?
  I don't think you need to be stuck in a rigid definition of your sexual identity. Toys are a lot of fun, and one way of enhancing a sexual relationship. One toy that you both might enjoy is the We-Vibe...
• Commented on Marriage in problems and a possible soulmate
  I would suggest that either you return to couple's therapy if you're ready to discuss the current situation, or that you go to individual therapy if you feel like you need a little more time to think things through on...
• Commented on We had an argument and now he's being oddly sensitive about sex...
  Don't give up on initiating. Sometimes a person can really settle into a grudge and it's hard to see a way out. His feelings may have been hurt the next day, but now it's 11 days later. Often times a...
• Commented on erectile disorder?
  How old is he? Erectile issues are a normal part of the sexual life-cycle. It's great that you have a level of communication in which you're comfortable giving him a flesh-light. I wouldn't worry about his porn usage, unless you...
• Commented on Marriage and sex
  Great advice everyone!...
• Posted Does Your Bedroom Door need a Lock? to Sex on the Brain
  It's a moment that not all parents have experienced, but that many of us fear: You're enjoying a passionate encounter with your partner, oblivious to the pitter-patter of little feet until it's too late. Have you just scarred your kid...
• Commented on Husband only wants sex once every 3 months
  I understand your frustration. It sounds like he may have an alcohol problem, which would impair sexual desire and function. I think it's normal for a lot of couples to hit a stand-still in their sex lives. There are lots...
• Commented on Toys...Good or Bad?? help?
  There's a fun vibrator on the market called the we-vibe. It's a couples vibrator and it enhances intercourse. Perhaps that will be less intimidating. I understand that some guys can feel anxiety about being replaced by sex toys, but really...
• Commented on Anal Sex
  There are so many paths to pleasure, I think it's perfectly acceptable to have likes, dislikes, turn-ons and turn-offs. The fact that you've made an effort is also admirable. I think your husband needs to stop putting sexual pressure on...