Ian Kerner

  • Posted No age-limit on Great Sex to The Sex Doctors are In!
    Contrary to the recent musings of Miley Cyrus that sex goes kaput once you hit 40, there's research to support that older people are right to have "great sexpectations."But research has shown that as people age, they don't necessarily forget how to...
  • Commented on New Relationship Lacking Chemistry: Fatal Flaw? Or Can We Work On It?
    Great comments everyone, I've learned a lot -- we'll be featuring a new question soon, and I hope the conversation is as good as this one!...
  • Commented on Sex problems
    I don't understand. Did she hurt herself during sex and now she's afraid? Or is the issue related to premature ejaculation?...
  • Commented on oral sex
    It might be worth some couples therapy to discuss the adjustments to your sex life. Would she be open to incorporating a vibrator into the action?...
  • Commented on Have Always Struggled to find the Big O
    Sounds like you're not getting enough clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Have you tried the female superior "woman on top" position?...
  • Commented on Foreplay and Quick Hard-On
    This sounds like rapid ejaculation. Has it always been this way? We have lots of literature on the topic, both for free and in our premium guide to overcoming premature ejaculation. There are exercises you can do to help with...
  • Commented on Bladder feels like exploding everytime he thrusts
    It's possible you have an infection -- or has it always been this way? Are there any positions in which you feel it less? What about when you're on top and in control? Is it only when he thrusts? You...
  • Commented on New Relationship Lacking Chemistry: Fatal Flaw? Or Can We Work On It?
    Thank you for the great dialogue!...
  • Commented on Sex, fear, paranoid need help
    Perhaps there are two separate issues in your post: one is your sense of being judged, and psychotherapy might be beneficial. On the other hand, many people are uncomfortable with public displays of affection. When you say that you feel...
  • Commented on Advice on bringing another man into our bedroom
    What does your wife think about this scenario?...
  • Commented on New Relationship Lacking Chemistry: Fatal Flaw? Or Can We Work On It?
    Can attraction be created where it never existed in the first place? That's one of the questions for the ages. Personally, I think it's very hard to manufacture attraction....
  • Commented on Need more sex from wife (not what you think!!!!)
    It sounds like you both have a lot of pressure, routine and responsibility. It's important that you've tried to address the issue, and continue to make efforts to communicate. You've painted a clear picture of some aspects of your life,...
  • Commented on Fear of Intimacy
    Depending upon where you live I would suggest that you seek out trauma-based psychotherapy. You might also want to read the work of Wendy Maltz. But getting yourself into a program of psychotherapy will really help you manage the panic...
  • Posted Long Distance Relationships to Sex on the Brain
    The end of summer doesn't just mean it's time to buckle down at work or head back to school. For many college students, autumn also signals a disruption in summertime loving, in other words, a return to the dreaded long-distance...
  • Commented on Bedtime is for Romantic Time & Sleep, right?
    Try to make a rule in which you make your bedroom a bit more of a special place and keep "outside the bedroom stuff" outside the bedroom. It's very common for couples to bring all sorts of stuff -- work,...
  • Commented on charlie horse during an orgasm
    As people get sexually aroused and closer to orgasm, there's quite a bit of muscular tension throughout the body. Have you experimented with different positions? Does she have a previous injury in the area where she gets cramps? Does it...
  • Commented on A few questions .. part 2
    Please try to ask a single question within a thread as it gets too confusing otherwise. Many couples are quiet during sex, but perhaps if you start moaning or vocalizing a bit, she will follow you lead....
  • Commented on A few questions...
    Please ask one question at a time, as this is not the best format for multiple questions. In terms of premature ejaculation, there have been a number of threads on this topic and there's also quite a bit of information...
  • Commented on A few questions.. (part 3
    Try just being still and letting her take on the majority of the movement. Woman on top is one of the most consistent sexual positions from which women are able to orgasm. So lay back and enjoy....
  • Commented on Sex and anti-depressants
    You need to talk to your doctor more about the sexual side-effects of your specific medication, but your situation is not an unusual one, and sexual side-effects are one of the more negative aspects of taking an anti-depressant. It's very...
  • Commented on Using a vibrator
    Vibrators are a great way of stimulating the clitoris, which is one of the primary ways in which women enjoy them. If you just want the clitoral stimulation, you can use a small vibrator, but many women also enjoy vaginal...
  • Commented on Girlfriend does not climax with me anymore
    Have you talked about this? Is it possible there are issues outside of sex (relationship, other issues in her life) that are affecting her motivation to have and enjoy sex? Is she on any sort of medication that might have...
  • Commented on Female Squirting
    Female orgasm would be the release of sexual tension through a series of involuntary muscular contractions and the pleasant sensations of orgasm. Female orgasm would not necessarily be accompanied by ejaculation or squirting, but the former would be a very...
  • Commented on is this normal?
    All penises vary in size and shape. Are you able to masturbate and have orgasms without issue or pain? If so, you should be just fine....
  • Commented on Clitoris shrinking
    is your sense of sexual sensation diminishing. It would be natural with age for their to be some shrinking of the tissue due to lack of estrogen, and hormones may help. But genitals change with age, as does the quality...
  • Commented on Masturbation and getting off
    Are you able to have orgasms during partnered sex? If so, what is different about those sensations? Maybe the issue is finding the right vibrator, or using it in the right way. If you're not able to have an orgasm...
  • Commented on i have not masturbated or watched porn in a month
    Masturbation and porn probably has nothing to do with your erectile issues. Are you on any medications? Have you had this issue before? Do you feel stress or anxiety when you're with your partner? Are you attracted to your partner?...
  • Commented on Confused about sex w/ Ex vs new girlfriends
    You may want to discuss these issues with a therapist, who would be able to work with you on psychological underpinnings if your sexual issues, which is difficult to do without deeper conversation. But I'm a bit confused: you're lasting...
  • Commented on Wife thinks about women and not me.
    Two things: if you're really thinking about opening up the relationship so that your wife can test the waters with other women, I think you should do so under the guidance of a couple's therapist. Also, it's hard to create...
  • Commented on help with my size
    More than likely you're in the average range, and even if you're on the small side that doesn't mean you can't fully satisfy your partner. Why is your size bothering you? Have partners commented? Do you feel inadequate? Pills will...
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