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• Commented on Porn issue...or is it?
  Is he turning you down for sex, or less interested lately? Do you turn him down for sex? In other words its only an issue if its an issue. Have you clearly explained your ok with him watching porn? Maybe...
• Commented on Sex Everyday?
  You did say fiance' right? So your not married yet ? Well.....wait for it...there are many studies that show sex in marriage and long term relationships declines notably. Too many reasons for this. Once a week is the norm, twice...
• Commented on Return the favor
  Do you ever not give her foreplay? Maybe just kiss and then get in her instead - would she miss the foreplay from you? Does she engage in different positions or locations for intercourse? Was she always like this?...
• Commented on Herpes is ruining my sex life and stressin me out
  Agree with post above. Also perhaps your sex life, dating and social status would be better off - if you got on one of the reputable STD positive dating sites....
• Commented on New relationship
  As a nice guy (or perhaps reforming nice guy) we are not prone to the rough stuff... at first. Also I tended to go conservative at first and then open up the longer I was with a gal. With my...
• Commented on Porn watching
  I am no expert, but I think something (anything) becomes an issue when it is either dishonest or takes away from relationship. If I read you right - you are/were game for sex, and he choose to seek his satisfaction...
• Commented on A good position that doesn't hurt our knees??
  Try spooning. I might suggest a variation on this position I like. However, the guy needs to be able to handle the full weight of his gal. The man lays on his back, and the gal lays on her back...
• Commented on Do I have to tell him?
  What sexplorer said. You want a boy toy - a kind of sex therapy - not romance or love. Keep it to the sex therapy if you can. I think many things are best shared or saved only for a...
• Commented on Meaningful Sex
  Look to yourself and try to bring something new to the relationship and the bedroom. First off - have confidence in yourself sexually and other wise. Don't keep asking "are you sure I turn you on? you don't look like...
• Commented on Dildo Regrets
  And now you know why some say dildos and other such shaped toys are the female version of porn. That is all the negatives and positives thay say about men watching porn you can say about dildos and vibrators. That...
• Commented on physical attraction
  As others have said - diet is #1. I would say weight lifting is #2 and aerobics #3. Make sure he has had a physical with blood work that includes testosterone/estrogen. Sometimes there can be underlying conditions. When he does...
• Commented on I Think My Wife Doesn't Find Me Sexually Attractive
  Sorry I thought I lost the one post - and composed two replies....
• Commented on I Think My Wife Doesn't Find Me Sexually Attractive
  First - thank you for your service and sacrifices. God Bless you. It must have been hard on your wife having you away. It sounds like maybe it is not about you. Sex was great then stopped. It could be...
• Commented on Soreness after Sex
  Have you explored using some lubrication? Also - how is the duration - are you having sex longer than usual?...
• Commented on I Think My Wife Doesn't Find Me Sexually Attractive
  It may have nothing to do with you, but something going on with her. Could be medical, hormonal, emotional. She could be depressed or their is something she has on her mind she can't share. I would suggest counseling. However,...
• Commented on Why do I feel sexually betrayed by my wife?
  No and Yes. Look, I really understand were you are coming from - but it sounds like she was kind forced her to perform oral and swallow for her ex - and she hated it. Probably part of the reason...
• Commented on Rules about sex and dating?
  Even the old rule of "three dates" has kind of gone away. Dating these days sometimes comes with the expectation of sex (all things). I also don't see much difference between a BJ and full intercourse. Actually I kind of...
• Commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
  Okay she is a good mom. I assume then she never praises you, says she is proud of you, respects you, or does things for you out of love. Lets assume then that it is not just the sex -...
• Commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
  You love her......and she is not giving much sex(hardly any). Does she give (love) to you in other ways? Honor, respect, adore, cherish...make your favorite meals, support your pursuits, encourage you, etc...? Once I know this I can give you...
• Commented on How to know if it is a fad or love.
  In most cases the initial rush of a relationship is the best, the sex is the best, the emotions are the highest, and if the relationship is illicit then even better. But you want to define love and make sure...
• Commented on Im not lasting long enough, tempted to see doctor but rather not
  Good that you try to take care of her first. So you tried other stuff? Desensitizing creams. Try take care of yourself the morning of the day/night you expect to have sex. During sex, try thinking of something else for...
• Commented on Sexual problems and porn
  You say your are married seven years, and your sex drive has significantly decreased and you only like to have sex 2 - 3 times a week. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Most of us husbands at this stage...
• Commented on Hysterectomy
  I am so sorry. I understand more than you might expect. I can't add anything to the medical advice given. But let me add something else. Men and Women (and particularly women) have or don't have sex for a lot...
• Commented on Can't finish an orgasm
  Almost sounds like the rare and elusive dry orgasm I have had (I am a guy). Some feelings of orgasm but no lasting feeling. I suspect your meds have altered the way you experience these. I was on one med...
• Commented on Sex life suffering, Fiance says he "has no fantasies"
  "He did open up a lot about his fantasies when I was newly pregnant..." Okay so what were they? or rather what did you do after he told you about them?... By the way - I want to say you...
• Commented on Premature Ejaculation
  I think there are desensitizing gels you can try. I applaud your decision to wait till marriage, but you do owe her an upfront explanation of your sexual conditions/issues - otherwise you are being dishonest in witholding this information. While...
• Commented on Sex life suffering, Fiance says he "has no fantasies"
  He is afraid to hurt you, or scared you will hurt him with these fantasies. It is difficult to express fantasies without causing insecurities. What are the boundaries for expressing these fantasies? They can involve desires for others - or...
• Commented on Performing oral sex on my boyfriend makes him feel "intimidated"???
  Has he been single/dating for a while? or rather has been involved in many sexual relationships in the last 10 years. For some of us older guys, that act (oral to completion) was not a common gift given back in...
• Commented on Making wife feel guilty?
  Good question - when has your wife been sexy. You say it dropped off dramatically - when did this start. If she was active sexually before you, do you know if she had issues previously? You might see a trend...